guy i dated still follows me on social media, should i just block him instead

[Jay13094]

so the "exclusive relationship" ended pretty badly with him lying, being dishonest, and seeing someone while we were together. i cut it off with him in January (have not hooked up since) but he was hitting me up weekly and basically was dealing with him for a long 5 months and he was out of my hairs in May. With that said, i don't follow him on anything b/c ignorance is bliss and I'm still hurt by it in a sense. I don't know if its me just missing him, or just wanting him to hurt just as bad as he hurt me. None the less, i can't get myself to block him b/c of course you want them to know how well ur doing and what they're "missing out on" but i see that every time i post something on snapchat- he's the only name i look for and then i get an instant gratification but is not doing much for me in forgetting him completely. Same with instagram, he'll like my pictures time to time and just put me in a bad mood from seeing him name but satisfied at the same time.

 

I just want him to regret losing me, but i also hate how he knows what I'm doing without having to even talk to me. I don't know- but what would you do. What have you done previously or recommend me to.

[iouaname]

yes, remove him. you don't need to be reminded of his presence every time you post something on social media. you're completely stagnant when it comes to getting over him so long as you allow this to continue.

 

make the change. you'll be glad you did!

[dragonfire13]

I'll spare you the lecture you about putting in all that time and effort with someone who is an ex, because let's face it, there's a certain gratification with using social media to show your ex what he's missing out on...especially since it seems to work judging by how they tend to come sniffing around again.

 

If you really want to win, I would ghost on there. Rarely post, and don't check their stuff either. That way, you're doing more worthwhile things with your time and it has the added bonus of making your ex wonder what you're up to.

 

Trust me, that tends to mess with their heads more, as in "she's too busy to post, what is she doing? Who is she doing it with?"