flordagirl Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 I started chatting with a guy online about a month ago and could tell right away his profile picture was taken from a magazine or something similar. The guy insisted it was himself and that the pic had been photoshopped. But after he sent me some live pics of himself it was obvious the guy in the profile pic wasn't him, and he accused me of trying to say he was ugly. We chatted on webcam and I still couldn't see any similarities except the same hair and eye color. After that, all he wanted to do was communicate via email. About a month later I told him I was done with just emailing, I wanted something serious and was ending it because he just wanted cyber sex. I still couldn't help but wonder if the profile pic was him, so I googled the pic, and sure enough, it was indeed a professional athlete's pic. I thought I'd give the guy one more chance to come clean, but he still insisted the guy in the pic was him, even after I sent him a link to the article proving he'd ripped off someone else's pic. His response? He says the guy in the pic IS him, and people have stopped him on the street mistaking him for the pro-athlete in the article.Why would he keep insisting he was the guy in the pic after I'd shown him proof it wasn't?
JADIE Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 Cuz he's delusional? Consider yourself well rid of that one... 5
yxalitis Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 because he just wanted cyber sex. That's your answer 4
jay1983 Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 Why are you still talking to this dude? A month of email and you haven't met him face to face? 8
guest569 Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 Exactly, why even waste a second on this idiot. He maybe thought he would get better results using a fake pic, I wouldn't be surprised if the other photos aren't his either. Could be a big fat woman or an old man or a cat. 11
mrldii Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 (edited) Why do you want something serious with a guy whom you know before even meeting him is perfectly willing to lie - and to continue lying - to you? Edited August 13, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Reply to deleted post~T 2
Satu Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 Forget *why.* He did it, and that's all you need to know. "Next!" 6
ExpatInItaly Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 I started chatting with a guy online about a month ago and could tell right away his profile picture was taken from a magazine or something similar. The guy insisted it was himself and that the pic had been photoshopped. But after he sent me some live pics of himself it was obvious the guy in the profile pic wasn't him, and he accused me of trying to say he was ugly. We chatted on webcam and I still couldn't see any similarities except the same hair and eye color. After that, all he wanted to do was communicate via email. About a month later I told him I was done with just emailing, I wanted something serious and was ending it because he just wanted cyber sex. I still couldn't help but wonder if the profile pic was him, so I googled the pic, and sure enough, it was indeed a professional athlete's pic. I thought I'd give the guy one more chance to come clean, but he still insisted the guy in the pic was him, even after I sent him a link to the article proving he'd ripped off someone else's pic. His response? He says people have stopped him on the street mistaking him for the pro-athlete in the article.Why would he keep insisting he was the guy in the pic after I'd shown him proof it wasn't? Because he knew he was busted and felt like an idiot, so he kept trying to lie to you. He probably wanted to continue the cyber sex. Good for you for cutting it off. 2
xcupid Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 Why would he keep insisting he was the guy in the pic after I'd shown him proof it wasn't? Since you want a direct answer to your question, he could be a scammer. My question to you is why are you wasting time with this dude at all? 1
autumnnight Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 Here's your answer: We. Don't. Know. Because we are not him. At the very least he's a crappy liar. 6
SugarLips72 Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 (edited) You have been catfished. That is obvious yet you continue to talk to him. Why? You know its not him in the pics. Edited August 13, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 6
HereNorThere Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 It simple - When you get busted lying you can either admit you're a liar or stick with your lie. Obviously he's chosen to stick with his lie. Most healthy people would know when they're busted and start doing damage control, but most healthy people wouldn't be out catfishing people. This one is broken, sweetie. Put it back on the shelf and grab another one. 2
jen1447 Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 Ppl can get deeply invested in their little cons, and as long as there's some sliver of plausible deniability (no matter how thin), if they're deeply invested they'll cling to it. They may even sometimes start lying to themselves about it. 6
Hawaii51 Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 I can't pretend to know except that he lured you in and doesn't want to go-back ( admit he lied) on what he portrayed. either-way, giant enough flag to keep on moving forward. Sidenote, I wouldn't chat anyone up with just magazine-type photos in their profile. I want to see a person how they are in reality, living life, and interacting with nature and their family. One model shot is nice and shows potential- if it's them.
angel.eyes Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 Webcam or not, it's a real shame that you've chosen to waste a month of your life on a stranger who blatantly lies. Weren't you on the site to date? Maybe find a boyfriend? If so, move on as soon as you realize the photo was fake. What exactly are you expecting to come out of repeated interactions with a liar who is interested in nothing other than cybersex? What exactly is your goal here? Are you hoping to date him still? Are you hoping he'll somehow transform into the athlete whose photo was posted on his profile? Or that he'll magically stop lying? What exactly are you hoping to get from asking a bunch of strangers why a liar lied? Stop fixating on why he lied. Your focus should instead be on finding someone appropriate to date. Isn't that the point of joining an online dating site? Obviously guys who openly lie from the outset aren't appropriate. Ditto for guys who want nothing but cybersex when you're looking to date or for a relationship. What will you do differently in your next online foray? To me, that would be a way more productive line of thinking. 4
Clarity4us Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 (edited) He doesnt think he is attractive or he just wants to screw and play around on the net. He could be married with kids. That is prolly one of the biggest reasons so he doesn't get caught by his lover, he just wants some cyber fun. I first met online people and they lie, I just keep moving, sometimes I like to see how far they will go, which lying about his picture is the least of lies the internet dating will bring. You have to be a detective and be more firm if you want to find someone real...ask specific questions get them to send multiple pictures. etc...i didn't read that you met the guy, but if he lies about something stupid why trust him? ex. I met this girl online, I caught her in a lie about being online it shows you when and she told me somebody must have used her phone. She got very upset that I did that and made it seem like I was stalking her...no I was calling her out on her lies. The net is open playing field and if you are caught then you are caught. I caught her in more than one lie and the months talking to her I found out she is all sorts of messed up. I should have listened to the very FIRST lie. Instead I fell in the weave and didn't know which way was up. Edited August 9, 2015 by Clarity4us
sandylee1 Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 He's a blatant liar. I saw a guy like this on catfish. The girl called him out on the pic, compared to others and he continued to lie. You can't always understand craziness. 1
HereNorThere Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 He's a blatant liar. I saw a guy like this on catfish. The girl called him out on the pic, compared to others and he continued to lie. You can't always understand craziness. I kept thinking of that Isaac guy as well, lol. 1
justwhoiam Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 My guess: he was told he looks like [insert athlete's name], and he used a pic he found that could express who he was/what he looked like. Why didn't he confess? Options: 1. He's being honest about it 2. He didn't want to lose you over a lie, after being caught My tip: If you really want to know the truth, make the other person comfortable to say it to you. 1
Author flordagirl Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 She got very upset that I did that and made it seem like I was stalking her...no I was calling her out on her lies. . Same exact thing happened to me; he had the nerve to call me a stalker when I called him out on it!
Lois_Griffin Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 (edited) I thought I'd give the guy one more chance to come clean, but he still insisted the guy in the pic was him, even after I sent him a link to the article proving he'd ripped off someone else's pic. His response? He says the guy in the pic IS him, and people have stopped him on the street mistaking him for the pro-athlete in the article.Why would he keep insisting he was the guy in the pic after I'd shown him proof it wasn't? Why are you WASTING your time on some lying loser whose too socially stunted to actually leave his house and get a REAL time girlfriend and just wants cyber sex from online women instead? Edited August 13, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 7
No Limit Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 Next time the moment you realize something's off you just close the tab. It's really simple, will spare you lots of time and decreases the danger of engaging with a predator via internet. 3
kendahke Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 Best of luck to YOU getting through life judging people before you know their entire story. Then tell us the entire story. You will get feedback based directly on what YOU choose to reveal. No one is judging you. We're giving you our feedback based on our collective experience here because you're not the first girl to come here trying to figure out her digital romance dysfunction and you won't be the last, boo. The answer to your question: Because he's a liar and he's ripping off people's pictures. Why he's doing it really doesn't matter. There are a million reasons why and we all don't have all day to speculate. The fastest way to shut it down is to block him and stop dealing with liars. 3
Author flordagirl Posted August 12, 2015 Author Posted August 12, 2015 Next time the moment you realize something's off you just close the tab. It's really simple, will spare you lots of time and decreases the danger of engaging with a predator via internet. haha; that's funny because he actually accused me of being a predator :lmao: 1
HereNorThere Posted August 12, 2015 Posted August 12, 2015 haha; that's funny because he actually accused me of being a predator :lmao: Well, why are you out there preying on these poor men and their fake pictures? 7
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