curiousnycgirl Posted May 8, 2005 Posted May 8, 2005 Ok going to try to make this a short one - but I need to know if I am over-reacting. I told my b/f that I wanted to spend last night with my friend and her husband - she is going through some tough medical issues and I was hoping we would be celebrating her husband's new job. My b/f likes these people a lot - so I sort of expected him to come too - it was very clear that he was invited. Thursday he tells me he is going to a friend of his because her son is trying to get into college and was wait listed at his alma mater. They were going to write a letter of recommendation for my b/f to send. I am not sure why he needs to be there, in person, to put a letter of recommendation together, and through the course of conversation he also mentioned that this friend of his is single. Since we weren't going to see eachother saturday night, he asked if I wanted to come to his house Friday nite, which I did. I don't know what made me - but Saturday am I asked if he would be spending the night at his friend's house, to which he said yes. Is the fact that this bothers me over-reacting? I do not know this woman he spent Saturday night with, in fact I have never heard him mention her before. I spoke with a mutual friend of ours, who has known him for close to 20 years, and she's never heard this other woman's name either. Finally I text messaged him Saturday early evening, to give him an update on something HE wanted to discuss with my friends that I was with - and he never answered. The only time I've ever seen him ignore a text msg was when he was with me. So am I jumping to all kinds of conclusions here? Am I over-reacting? I haven't heard from him since I left him Saturday - not sure when I will although I know I'll be seeing him Tuesday night. I know I need to just discuss it with him, but I want to make sure I'm not making a mountain out of a molehill here. Thanks for the sanity check guys!
Marshbear Posted May 8, 2005 Posted May 8, 2005 I would say since he made a point of telling you his friend was single that you have a right to be wary. He sounds like he was upset over your spending time with your friend and he wanted to do the same to you. Also the fact that he spent the night at his single friends house is a red flag. If he needed to be there to help write the letter it surely didn't take all evening and he didn't need to spend the night unless she was out of town. If she is such a good friend, how come you have never heard of her or any of his friends? As to his not answering you text message I still think he is being childish and wants to tick you off. AS you said, I would discuss it with him and see if there are any grounds for concern.
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