Thermals Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 I am looking for some input from everyone on here as to how to evaluate whether the feelings that I have toward a woman I have been seeing stem from my liking her and seeing something special in her or whether I like being with her because I'm just lonely. What indicators am I looking for? Here are some of my feelings: I love her giggles and her laugh. I like her witty sense of humor and enjoy it. I like the way she makes me feel when I'm with her (I feel happy, I feel that I can be myself, I feel calm and at ease. I feel that I'm not being judged.) I like several of her personality traits, traits that I lack myself or traits that are a weakness for me. I like the warmth she exudes, her accommodating nature. I like how at the same time she can be both assertive/forceful and gentle/caring. As an aside, sometimes, the conversation between us can be about anything, nothing serious or important, something mundane or trivial and I still feel good about being with her. Does that mean that I'm so bored that I just enjoy her attention or am I looking at this particular aspect (such conversations) the wrong way?
xcupid Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 You could be lonely. You could be bored. You could like her. You could be developing feelings for her. What does it matter? It makes no difference as long as you like her and you enjoy her company. Don't start overthinking this. 5
scooby-philly Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 You could be lonely. You could be bored. You could like her. You could be developing feelings for her. What does it matter? It makes no difference as long as you like her and you enjoy her company. Don't start overthinking this. To a certain extent I agree with this comment. Certain types of guys can overthink things. You seem to have interest in her on many levels - her mannerisms, her personality, (I'll assume you find her attractive), you guys can talk about anything - and most importantly - you feel like you can be yourself around her. Those are all good/great things. Don't over-analyze in this case or project issues either from past relationships or things you might have read into your relationship with her. If you feel you might be lonely talk to her and to some long time friends about it. You could be lonely, but that doesn't mean that things with her are wrong or that your relationship isn't on good ground. All that aside, also focus on her - does she feel the same way about you. I've been lonely for most of my life. I let that loneliness drive me into two relationships where the women, while thinking they liked me/loved me, they really didn't - i.e. I wasn't their top priority, we really didn't connect on an emotional level, and being the "nice guy" I eventually exhausted myself because I wasn't really getting anything out of it and lost a lot in the process It's good you're thinkng these thoughts. Too many people aren't self-aware. But try and get perspective before you go too far and get yourself worked up over nothing.
jen1447 Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Does the thought of her or being with her make you feel tingly inside?
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