treehugger101 Posted August 8, 2015 Posted August 8, 2015 How many of you are 21 or older and still live at home with your family? How many of you, live at home and have your family even if you are 21, 22, 23, 24, 25 or even 28-30 years of age, tell you, stuff you can and cannot do? What did you do to change those rules or did you have to stick with them? As of right now, my Boyfriend and I are both 28 and live at our own families homes. And he lives a bit aways, 40-50 minute drive, and we do hang out from time to time, and he drives home late getting home around 12AM or 2AM. But his parents dislike him coming home so late. Him and I both live in Southern California, he lives in the beach area where there's a lot of canyons so he uses those as well as freeways to get too and from places. So perhaps his parents dislike him using those canyons so late at night or maybe it's a whole another reason. In any case, what should he do? What would you do in this situation?
TunaCat Posted August 8, 2015 Posted August 8, 2015 It really depends on family dynamics. I'll be 30 in a few months and I still live at home with my mom & brother (who is a minor) Yet my mom and I treat each other like adults. I don't have a curfew or any of that crap. I come and go as I please. I do let her know if I'll be out late, but that's about it. What is your boyfriend's relationship like with his parents? If it were me, I'd be standing up for myself and telling my folks that I'll be out late. Don't ask, tell! Is your boyfriend working, helping out with the bills, going to school?
amaysngrace Posted August 8, 2015 Posted August 8, 2015 What's their problem with him coming home late? Are they light sleepers? Maybe he should move out. Maybe they resent him being there and are just naggy so he'll get his own place.
Author treehugger101 Posted August 8, 2015 Author Posted August 8, 2015 Its a good relationship with his parents, and he is about to start school at the end of this month. Not working right now just schooling. And thats the funny thing he lives with his parents but he has his own guest house by itself. His parents don't want him coming home late because he drives in canyons and something could happen and he takes medication for his health and those can affect in and cause something to happen.
turnera Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 We overcame that with our DD24 by agreeing that anytime she goes anywhere, she texts us and then again when she gets there; even if she's getting home late and we're already asleep, she texts so if I were to wake up, I'll see that she made it home ok. We're not really involved in what she's doing, but since she lives with us, and we're aware when she's not around, it just gives us a little peace of mind. Of course, when she moves out next year to live with her boyfriend, we won't be doing that anymore because we'll have no idea what she's doing day to day. Maybe he can offer to do the texting thing.
mrldii Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 Its a good relationship with his parents, and he is about to start school at the end of this month. Not working right now just schooling. And thats the funny thing he lives with his parents but he has his own guest house by itself. His parents don't want him coming home late because he drives in canyons and something could happen and he takes medication for his health and those can affect in and cause something to happen. Reads like they're concerned about someone they love; reads like you would want to be onboard with these people who love him, not fighting with them. Not to mention, it's illegal to drive in California while under the influence of anything, including prescribed drugs for legitimate medical ailments. What am I missing?
vrj Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 the only thing i could say its that I feel you bro.. ^_^ but hey parents would always be parents they just really love you and don't want bad things to happen to you be thankful that you have unlike somebody I know who left their children at the sidewalk and and never return again. But if you are really tried of it try having a heart to heart talk with your parents and ask what you truly feel. have a great day ^_^
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