contel3 Posted August 8, 2015 Posted August 8, 2015 When a dumper moves on immediately or has someone new lined up. Does it mean they never cared about you? Or didn't for a very long time? I don't understand how you could do this to anyone unless you don't give a s***. Why not leave before you meet someone else? Any personal experience as a dumper?
YellowPetal Posted August 8, 2015 Posted August 8, 2015 They probably never cared about you, and were stringing you along. They are disgusting cowards who are unable to be alone. My ex cheated on me and left me for the person who he cheated on me with. Plus, he lied to me from the beginning of the relationship. They do it because they only care about themselves, plain and simple. The best thing is to completely NC that person and move on.
foolinlove79 Posted August 8, 2015 Posted August 8, 2015 I think some people just cant be on their own. My ex left and started a new rs 2 weeks later. Its like i didnt exist. Just picked up and kept going. Or maybe with these people anyone would do. Either way i think there is something not right with them emotionally that they can do that. Sux but best to make the decision you are better off knowing what they are really like and move on. 2
aloneinaz Posted August 8, 2015 Posted August 8, 2015 It goes back to when a dumper "suddenly" or "out of the blue" ends a relationship and the dumpee is "shocked". Usually, the dumpee missed obvious signs of the dumper withdrawing from the relationship. I think what happens is the dumper had been having doubts for weeks/months and finally pulled the plug, ending it. The dumpee was blind sided due to missing the signs of them checking out. This was always the case for me as the dumper. I started having doubts about the person and thought about it for a while before finally coming to the conclusion to terminate the relationship. Yes, some dumpers do wait until someone else they like more comes into the picture before ending the relationship or someone comes along that the dumper likes even more than their current partner. As far as dumpers ending relationships and then immediately dating or getting into a new relationship within w eeks? Yes, it happens because they fell out of love with their last partner during the final weeks/months and they were emotionally ready for someone new. The dumpers don't need time to be single to"get over" or "mourn" a ex or R/S when they end it because they were all ready over it by the time they pulled the plug. 1
Gus Grimly Posted August 8, 2015 Posted August 8, 2015 When I broke NC and contacted my Ex, during the conversation she told me; "I don't need a man in my life, I'm doing JUST FINE without you or anyone!", in a very aggressive tone. Fast forward 1 week later, she's already slept with some guy on the 1st date she met on OKCupid. Doesn't need a man huh? Just 2 weeks prior we were engaged, had a small falling out, nothing to break up over, next thing I know "Here's your ring back". She's a mother in her mid 30's acting like a hussy. I've lost all respect for her, again. This hurt me, but at the same time made me realize what kind of a person she is. Along with how she treated me on the phone, I'm so glad it ended. I can see clearly now. She doesn't deserve me.
theredpill Posted August 8, 2015 Posted August 8, 2015 Some valid points in the posts here and the truth of the matter is some people, men and women alike are incapable of being alone and will line up the next one before breaking it off. I've done it myself once or twice as a younger man, although this didn't involve physical cheating, just knew they were into me so leaving the current relationship was easy (obviously I was deemed heartless by the dumpee's) Best thing to do it get back out there, there's nothing better than meeting, dating and then getting into a relationship with someone better than the ex in every way, so when the ex does get in touch when they often do when they find out you're happy, you can tell them to feck off 1
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