Gian Posted August 8, 2015 Posted August 8, 2015 (edited) Hi all and thank you in advance for hearing my story out My name is Gian, I am Italian and I am 25. Three years and a half ago I started my degree in chinese language, and at the university I met a beautiful Chinese girl who was born in Italy and is one year older than me. After being friends for 5 months we both figured out we were really attracted to each other. After the first kiss she started expressing her concerns for her parents, and here goes the problem: her parents are Chinese but she was born in Italy, so her mentality is Italian but her parents absolutely want her to marry a Chinese man they themselves have to choose. I couldn’t let her go for this reason, so I promised her I would be willing to fight for her in the future if need be. Since we were classmates, after 6 months we were together we started sleeping together at each other’s place, so I might well say we have been living together for almost all this time. During summer I always went back to my place and didn’t see her for the whole summer since her parents couldn’t know about our story. The problem started last summer. I decided to meet her parents after I graduated. I visited them for 1 month and then her mother told me we could not stay together, and started threatening her daughter telling her if she kept the relationship going she had to go away from home. This year after graduation we went to Spain to study Spanish (so that we could keep living together without telling her parents). It’s been the most beautiful year of our story. At the end of the period we applied for different universities but in the same city. I managed to get into my course but she failed, so she started feeling frustrated and being afraid she had no more scapegoats to come back to Spain next year. Two months ago since the course finished we went back to our cities so we haven’t been seeing each other. 1 week ago she called me and all of a sudden she told me she didn’t love me anymore, that she started feeling nothing for me 1 month ago and now was time to tell me. She started crying on Skype telling me that I was perfect because I have been the only man in her life who was willing to stand her family situation, which was one of the main reasons she wanted to live with me. She's always been rather cold to me but it was just her character, I know she has loved me. Now, I also know this story is over because when a girl tells you she doesn’t love you she means it. What struck me was this: she told me she felt apathetic towards everyone: her parents, her friends, even me. I suppose in these 2 months she’s been really depressed but I could do nothing because she’s been working everyday so we didn’t speak that much. I just can’t make a reason out of this. How is it possible that we have been living together for 3 years without almost no arguments whatsoever and now that she has started losing her love now out of the blue there’s nothing to do to recover. She told me that it’s not for her parents, not for other men, she just doesn’t love me anymore and she doesn’t know why; at the same time she kept saying she couldn't bear blocking me in this situation, that I didn't deserve it. I don’t know whether to trust her words but I think she’s always been sincere to me. How can a person lose her feelings if there’s been no apparent reason for that? I’m moving on but I really can’t trust her telling me that she didn’t love me and she didn’t know why. I’m just afraid I won’t be able to trust people again, if she left me for her situation and her depression I could understand, but not loving me just for the sake of it is just so excruciating. I left her telling her I was going to move on and she doesn't have to worry for me. I told her I still love her but I have to forget her, that she has to take care of herself. I neither cried nor insulted her, instead I told her I would do everything again; then I disappeared. 1 week has went by and I think this was the best way to end it, even if my heart is about to explode I know I will make it, but I'll never forget the beautiful person she is. Thank you all. Edited August 8, 2015 by Gian 1
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