strangethoughts1 Posted August 8, 2015 Posted August 8, 2015 hello all, this is my first post and i was hoping to hear your thoughts i have been dating this 27 year old woman for about 8 months and things are pretty good. the other day she was talking about the times where she had sex outdoors and she mentioned that she had sex with her ex in a cab on the way back from a club. she told me that she had gotten rid of her undergarments and sat on her ex's lap. for some reason, i seem to see her as being immature/crass now. am i wrong in feeling this way? am i being unfair to her?
mrldii Posted August 8, 2015 Posted August 8, 2015 You're not wrong, because we're allowed to see things any way we choose. For instance, what you chose to see as "immature/crass" another man might see as "adventurous" and "a turn on". She might choose to welcome your more discerning nature and your ability to rein-in her enthusiasm. Of course, she might also choose to miss being with someone who is more sexually adventurous and open to more daring exploits. Best of luck to you, OP... 3
kgcolonel Posted August 8, 2015 Posted August 8, 2015 Mrldii may be right or, she may be hinting that she would like to spice things up a bit.....why not ask her about how she feels about your relationship and what could make it better or more interesting? Just a thought..... 1
CarrieT Posted August 8, 2015 Posted August 8, 2015 for some reason, i seem to see her as being immature/crass now. Well, take into account the things that YOU did when you were younger and "immature." Did you do things in our youth that were immature and crass? We all do stuff in our youth that we may regret or that aren't very adult. am i wrong in feeling this way? am i being unfair to her? Yeah, I think you are being unfair. Take what she did in context of who she was versus who she has become. And, let him be the first to cast stones...
mr_dave Posted August 8, 2015 Posted August 8, 2015 Why would anybody tell their boyfriend precise details like that though? I would have the same reaction, she doesn't sound particularly classy to do it in front of a taxi driver.. 1
CarrieT Posted August 8, 2015 Posted August 8, 2015 I didn't get the impression she told the story whilst in the cab, in front of a driver, but that being in a cab reminded her of the incident. 1
katiegrl Posted August 8, 2015 Posted August 8, 2015 I didn't get the impression she told the story whilst in the cab, in front of a driver, but that being in a cab reminded her of the incident. I didn't read where she was in a cab recently at all, alone or with the OP. The only reference to the cab was that she had hot sex in a cab with her ex, presumably a long time ago, before she met the OP. As to why she told him, my guess would be it was a hint to him that she would like to spice things up .... be more adventurous. Another poster mentioned that too. But who knows. In any event, OP you are entitled to be turned off if that's how you feel. But why are you turned off exactly? Do you think her behavior was whorish? Unbecoming of a "feminine" woman? Are you jealous, feel threatened? It's worth exploring why it turned you off. You may not be compatible sexually ....hence her wanting to spice things up in the first place. 4
Zagan Posted August 8, 2015 Posted August 8, 2015 I bet that taxi driver spent more time looking into the rear view mirror than he did the road. You're lucky she's still alive to date you 1
katiegrl Posted August 8, 2015 Posted August 8, 2015 Actually, I wouldn't be surprised if she made the story up.... she just used that story as a way to let you know she's sexually adventurous and would like to spice it up without directly telling you. Don't know why, but some women find it difficult to be direct about these things, so they tell you some story about what they did with their ex, hoping you will get the hint. It could be true ..... it just wouldn't surprise me if it weren't. You'll never know though. 1
Hopeful30 Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 (edited) You may not be compatible sexually ....hence her wanting to spice things up in the first place. She could always just make a go for it too, though; she could just as easily grab YOU in a public place, and make a sexy memory right there. Actually, I wouldn't be surprised if she made the story up.... she just used that story as a way to let you know she's sexually adventurous and would like to spice it up without directly telling you. It's hard to tell without actually being there when she says it. Edited August 9, 2015 by Hopeful30
jay1983 Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 I wouldn't have wanted to know about this or any other details of when, where or how she had sex with her ex. 1
yxalitis Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 I bet that taxi driver spent more time looking into the rear view mirror than he did the road. You're lucky she's still alive to date you It's surprisingly common for people to have sex in a taxi One of the perks of an otherwise bleak job.
yxalitis Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 I wouldn't have wanted to know about this or any other details of when, where or how she had sex with her ex. Ouch, the pain is still fresh huh Jay? I read that as sex while still with the ex..
jay1983 Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 (edited) Ouch, the pain is still fresh huh Jay? I read that as sex while still with the ex.. I meant I know the girls I've been with slept with their exes, but I don't need visuals of what they did. Edited August 9, 2015 by jay1983 1
jay1983 Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 This is my problem with the situation. There is no reason for such details to come up, ever. I have done some crazy ****, but my GF knows of none of it, because I don't go bragging about the details of my sexual adventures to her. We most be oddballs or something. *shrugs*
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