He Doesn't Want Wife To Give Him Oral Any More ......

[poetrygirl1972]

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DOESN'T WANT ME TO GIVE ORAL ANY MORE ......

 

Hi all!

 

Hope u can help me cos I am at a loss here!

 

Have been married for 4 years, to a great, sexy man whom i still fancy like mad. We have active sex life, tho is only ever "quickies".....but that is not the main problem which is gettin me down.

 

My husband announced last week that he does not want me to give him bj's any more. Does not enjoy them he said, and apparently never has. This was a shock to me, cos he always makes the right noises, and gives.....amm....the right results, shall we say ?!

 

He has been in2 cross-dressing in the past, but it had stopped several years ago.

He says he does not want to become a woman, nor is he gay.

 

Please, please guys - what do u think is goin on with him? I have tried to ask and talk, but he evades me......

 

this is cuttin me up.

 

Pls respond.

 

Ty so much for listening.

 

 

Poetrygirl

[SoleMate]

Wow.

 

I've been on LoveShack for nearly two years and have read many tens of thousands of posts. They all seemingly fall into a few basic categories. I was sure there would never be anything new under the sun...until today. I have never heard of a case of a man who previously enjoyed oral sex asking for it to stop. It's very hard to understand.

 

There COULD be some quasi-innocent explanations that are not too hurtful to you. Like maybe, "You use too much teeth." or "I don't like being that out of control."

 

HOWEVER.....in the absence of any real information, I would really have to question a few basics:

 

* Is he faithful?

* Is he heterosexual? He may SAY he's not gay - but I am afraid that many men, especially the nominally straight, married ones, will lie about this topic and not admit to preferring men even if you catch him naked in bed with a 19 year old boy.

 

In addition...quickies only, for your entire sex life? Sure, men enjoy quickies, but most/all of them also enjoy longies....with the exception of men who have to get it over with quick so they can forget they are in bed with a woman and not a man, like their heart is telling them to be.

 

I think you and your H need to have some serious discussions. Would you want to stay married if he is gay? Probably not. Would he? Probably for a while, but then a truly gay man would want to leave for a male partner. Possibly a sexuality counselor can help. Good luck...

[poetrygirl1972]

Hi there!

 

Thanx so much 4 ur comprehensive, yet sensitive reply.

 

Yes, i have arrrived at much the same conclusion as urself re my husband's possible sexuality. It sure doesn't appear normal for a straight hetro male not to enjoy "head".......

 

Re the quickies comment, could be the case. (I hadn't considered he could be keen to get away if not thinkin about me/females when i was down there.) Mind u, before we were married he did spend 4ever on 4play.

 

Or, the hopefully innocent explanation hubby may have for me when I tackle him again soon is that I have very sore teeth !!!! lol

 

Again, ta for confirming my doubts, and for spurring me in2 approaching the subject in a non-paranoid way....... I was beginning to think I had got men & their sexual likes VERY wrong!!!!!

 

Have a great day.

 

 

Poetrygirl