Anonymous women confess on secrets app why they settled

[Revolver]

Whisper users reveal why they SETTLED for their current partner | Daily Mail Online

 

While many people will hold out for true love before settling down, confessions on secret sharing app Whisper suggest this is not always the case.

 

In a recent thread, anonymous users have admitted why they called off the search for a soul mate and 'settled' for their current partner instead.

 

And the uncensored answers stated a whole host of reasons - including being ignored by the real object of their affection, the fear of being alone and their desire to start a family.

 

seeking a more suitable partner.

 

One user admitted: 'I feel I settled for my boyfriend. Like I couldn't do any better than him. I feel like that makes me a terrible person. I just don't want to be alone anymore.'

[Gloria25]

And men also "settle" for certain women for pretty much the same reasons you mentioned...

 

I believe in "compromise", cuz no one is going to be 100% what you're looking for. But to "settle" (from what I understand means going for someone you don't wanna be with but heck, a hamburger is better than starving) doesn't do it for me. I rather be alone.

 

Worst, I couldn't fathom commingling finances and/or having kids with someone I "settled" for.

 

If I am gonna "settle", I rather be alone and just hit the bars for sex...cuz if you settle, you are living a lie and pretty much have a roommate with whom sex may happen now and then...which pretty much you can get at a bar w/o commingling finances and/or kids in the mix.

[carhill]

Well, would someone want to commit to someone always looking for a BBD? I could see traction for people walking both sides of the street on that aspect. Confessing, anonymously, they settled on the one side and 'oh, baby, you're the best' on the other side. I see that aspect as gender-neutral. In my generation, for guys, it was the lady looking for a bigger dick and a fatter wallet. There was always one around the corner and, yup, some ladies didn't deny themselves! Hence, all else being equal, a guy needed to get those intimate stats up there and grow that cash stash. Assets were king! Fortunately, a lot has apparently changed since I got ripped a new one by that gauntlet in my 20's. Since women's hearts are generally always a deep ocean of secrets, I'll never know if they settled or what their reasons were. It shall forever remain a mystery.

[Woggle]

Yet people think men are just being irrational when we have a fear of being settled for. I am not one of those never get married guys but if a woman's eyes don't light up and she doesn't get hot in your presence then pass. You will save yourself a world of hurt in the future. Make sure you are her number one love and then and only then should you marry her.

[toolforgrowth]

AF/BB. We already knew that.

[Maleficent]

A lot of people think relationships are 'easy' and 'just work by themselves' but that's a load of crap.

 

You can't just put two people that are attracted to each other and hope for the best. Relationships needs to be built and worked on. Especially after a few years.

 

I get the feeling these people are just bored with their current partner so they assume they just settled.

 

 

Edit: also, my gawd the entitlement in some of these...

[jay1983]

I wish we could see behind the curtains. Who're these people, what were their expectations and exactly who did they settled for?