EgoJoe Posted August 7, 2015 Posted August 7, 2015 I once thought I would never get over the woman that I originally came to Loveshack to for. I have. I've gotten over two women since then, one at my complete discretion and the other due to infidelity. As a result I learned quite a bit. The first step to getting over it is wanting to be happy, deciding to be whole and focusing on your life. 6
erklat Posted August 8, 2015 Posted August 8, 2015 Unfortunately I can't concur it's ever that easy. Whenever my relationships failed one part of me essentially died. It is true that I evolved later but nevertheless most times lack of the way my exes made me feel in that stage if my life makes me infinitely sad.
foolinlove79 Posted August 8, 2015 Posted August 8, 2015 At some point it definately does become a conscious choice you need to make. You must decide you are going to move on and be happy. The only other option is to wallow indefinitely. Not worth wasting your life over someone who decides they dont want you in theres 2
guest569 Posted August 8, 2015 Posted August 8, 2015 Hey, good for you Joe! Glad to hear it is possible. Did it get easier with each breakup? Or is it always so tough?
Author EgoJoe Posted August 8, 2015 Author Posted August 8, 2015 It does get easier if you decide to move on. When you say things like "part of me died" and "I can't" it's because you don't want to and you are attaching too much significance to this other person. You are allowing yourself to be a victim. The feelings are the same, the biggest change is that you have the ability to cope with them, understand that it's the rejection and you know to reach out. I was disgusted and ready to be done with my last girlfriend but that didn't change how I felt when I found out I was right after going back and forth. I now have yet another girlfriend (huge upgrade) of nearly 7 months. I was dating relatively quick (although taking things slowly) after my last relationship. But, I had decided to move on. I am completely indifferent to the last one with only normal nostalgia remaining. Sometimes the best way to live is to focus only on the future so you can put enough space between you and your past to consider it objectively. 1
guest569 Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 Yep thats me still, I cant!!!! = i wont!! Cant let go, not ready, he dumped me over 1.5 yrs ago haha. Probably about time, but its easier to be the victim i guess? I dont know. I dont think i can control it, just need to wait a little longer.
GammaLeonis Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 For me, I would rather take a break from dating and just do my own things with friends and by myself. It's not easy to say just go out there and find someone who's ready when I have been cheated on twice by different women and later spent months with someone who most likely had some mental issues. The principle remains the same, focus on things you have and around you.
Author EgoJoe Posted August 9, 2015 Author Posted August 9, 2015 I've waited and I've jumped back out there. When I waited I needed to I had baggage and I still thought like a victim. When I jumped back out there it was because I needed to keep living. I only wanted to have fun and I entered into what I would consider a truly adult relationship.
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