Observations about Women

[SycamoreCircle]

Sycamore, thoughts are not facts. These thoughts you have about women are merely your projections about your ex-girlfriend, because you still cling to the bitterness and sadness from that traumatic breakup. Also, when your thoughts are created from an insecure place, those thoughts can create the lies you believe -- about women or men. So again, thoughts are not facts.

 

Once you see that, you will realize that your thoughts create your perception...your reality. Not women themselves.

Writergal, you're taking a discussion that I've started that's intended to have a theoretical tone albeit colored by my own experiences, and rather than discussing it on its own terms, speeding a torpedo of personal information you happen to know about me into the hull of it. Why? Is having insight into my life a trump card to the argument itself? Maybe I am basing the question on my ex and maybe I'm basing my question on J.S, the actress I had a fling with during Dracula, 1999. I think it's an easy victory for long term LS members who are familiar with each other's story, to sally in, throw some personal information on the table, and satisfy themselves with their armchair psychiatry.

 

I spoke to my mother tonight and asked her the same question I ask in my original post. She responded that generally women are considered more emotional, more connected to their emotions and therefore more inclined to be associated with matters of the heart, such as being caretakers of babies and the elderly.

 

She did counter that with her feeling that men do have a connection to their emotions, which just expresses itself in a different way. She also said that she feels much of how we view men and women and how men and women act is based on social constructs.

 

I typed "Women who have trouble talking about their feelings" in Google and the search results exclusively produced "Men who have trouble talking about their feelings.":confused:

[guest569]

I feel as though I was raised much the same as my brothers were. I read the occasional book and watched tv and films, but mostly fictitious, and I was always aware that real life is not like that. And the women generations before me all worked for a living and knew stuff. Not formally educated but it was pretty much going without saying that you work hard, buy stuff and seize power. That is not gender, that is capitalism.

[Els]

Of course there are terrible women who were never hurt by a man, just as how there are terrible men who were never hurt by a woman (no, being rejected for romance doesn't count, for either gender).