Chief Wiggum Posted August 7, 2015 Posted August 7, 2015 Ladies, what would be the motives or thoughts going on in a girl's mind when she makes contact out of the blue (2+ years) with an ex that she abruptly ended it with? What would be the usual reasons a girl would do this? Gents, your thoughts/experiences are welcome, too.
thecomputerguy Posted August 7, 2015 Posted August 7, 2015 Ladies, what would be the motives or thoughts going on in a girl's mind when she makes contact out of the blue (2+ years) with an ex that she abruptly ended it with? What would be the usual reasons a girl would do this? Gents, your thoughts/experiences are welcome, too. Usually I've noticed this happens when they either get the realization that you were pretty good compared to their recent relationship or wants something. Was on the hook with a girl before and she went and married someone else she started talking to me again when she wanted help moving out when they were fighting (3 years later). On the other hand I've had a relationship that ended in long distance and she called to just catch up, literally. Always awkward though.
Gary S Posted August 7, 2015 Posted August 7, 2015 It's called ghostly love syndrome......they have tunnel vision, and temporarily only think of the good times you two had, but not the bad times CAN YOU GET TOGETHER AGAIN WITH A LOVER FROM THE PAST?
candie13 Posted August 7, 2015 Posted August 7, 2015 guilt linked to her abruptly leaving. However valid her reasons to leave were, it is really difficult to do it. Being the dumper is a heavy heavy burden. And sometimes... sometimes... it's not because a person leaves abruptly a RS or a partner that it's really over. Sure, after years and years, that's a bit weird... Who knows, maybe Gary S is onto something...
LoveRefreshed Posted August 7, 2015 Posted August 7, 2015 Obligatory STD notification. I had an ex call me up. Granted it was only half a year. H: Hi, I have to ask you something. M: What up? H: Did you cheat on me? M: No H: Ever? M: Not at all, why? H: That's it, no reason. Later, I found out from a buddy that she contracted chlamydia from her cheating fiancé.
Author Chief Wiggum Posted August 7, 2015 Author Posted August 7, 2015 Usually I've noticed this happens when they either get the realization that you were pretty good compared to their recent relationship or wants something. Was on the hook with a girl before and she went and married someone else she started talking to me again when she wanted help moving out when they were fighting (3 years later). On the other hand I've had a relationship that ended in long distance and she called to just catch up, literally. Always awkward though. So, if they're contacting just to see how you are, sometimes that's all there is to it?
Author Chief Wiggum Posted August 7, 2015 Author Posted August 7, 2015 It's called ghostly love syndrome......they have tunnel vision, and temporarily only think of the good times you two had, but not the bad times CAN YOU GET TOGETHER AGAIN WITH A LOVER FROM THE PAST? Hmm, interesting. In this scenario, it definitely seems like she's choosing to forget the bad times.
Author Chief Wiggum Posted August 7, 2015 Author Posted August 7, 2015 guilt linked to her abruptly leaving. However valid her reasons to leave were, it is really difficult to do it. Being the dumper is a heavy heavy burden. And sometimes... sometimes... it's not because a person leaves abruptly a RS or a partner that it's really over. Sure, after years and years, that's a bit weird... Who knows, maybe Gary S is onto something... I don't know how guilty she really feels, especially if she claims she doesn't know how or why things had ended. Or is that her just not wanting to admit what happened?
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