Stage5Clinger Posted August 7, 2015 Posted August 7, 2015 Met this girl mid June and more recently shes telling me she wants to be friends. I tell her that's cool with me I just like her in general. She blew me off enough after that I went no contact its been literally only 4 days of no contact and she's reaching out to me asking if everything is okay. I play it cool and she asks to do lunch. Fine I say so I flex my lunch and she bails on me. Saying she had to drop off her rental and pick her car up at the shop at a very specific time. I get the feeling she just bailed on me after she asked to do lunch.. Wtf?! Immediately after she bails she says we'll do lunch Monday. Whoopty doo I think to myself and say fine. She immediately proceeda asking me what I'm doing this weekend and snapchatting me. I'm considering going right back into no contact. Any ideas whats wrong with this girl? I've been clear that I like her and have been nothing but good to her. She has hinted at being abused in the past.
LoveRefreshed Posted August 7, 2015 Posted August 7, 2015 Likes to have her ego stroked. One bail on me, and she has to invite me to something (Monday lunch) and that is the last chance. She blows me off again, and I tell her that she's disrespectful and rude, and I won't be wasting my time anymore with her. Then go NC, legit.
kendahke Posted August 7, 2015 Posted August 7, 2015 is this the one you've been asking out a lot and she blows you off? Just go NC and don't show up for lunch on Monday. Seriously... she can't be the only girl in town? 1
Author Stage5Clinger Posted August 7, 2015 Author Posted August 7, 2015 is this the one you've been asking out a lot and she blows you off? Just go NC and don't show up for lunch on Monday. Seriously... she can't be the only girl in town? Yupp same girl! No contact has helped me really separate my strong emotions from her. I thought maybe she actually missed me and wanted to see me. If she's just playing mind games she's a major sociopath because this is getting ridiculous.
LoveRefreshed Posted August 7, 2015 Posted August 7, 2015 I think most people don't realize what they are doing. She does probably miss you (miss your attention) but she doesn't see it that way. She probably is very impulsive. Messages you when she misses you, blows you off because she doesn't miss you anymore. 1
deadelvis Posted August 7, 2015 Posted August 7, 2015 or ya know... maybe her excuse was legit. maybe she got a big zit on her nose and wants to wait till it goes away. don't read so much into it. just be casual and see what happens
xcupid Posted August 7, 2015 Posted August 7, 2015 She's hot and cold. Sounds like she likes to have her ego stroked. Also sounds like she's manipulating you. You can go no contact but frankly, you should just drop her. She's not interested enough and she doesn't even have the courtesy to rain check a lunch. Find someone who really wants to be in a relationship.
RoseVille Posted August 7, 2015 Posted August 7, 2015 I think most people don't realize what they are doing. She does probably miss you (miss your attention) but she doesn't see it that way. She probably is very impulsive. Messages you when she misses you, blows you off because she doesn't miss you anymore. Yes, this. I'm guilty of doing this, it's lame but I've done it when I had conflicting feelings.
phineas Posted August 8, 2015 Posted August 8, 2015 When a woman does this to me I ignore her. When she gets annoying wondering why i'm no longer paying attention to her I call her out on her flakiness, tell her she sucks as a friend then tell her I'm only interested in dating, but not her because her behavior is a massive turn-off. Then ignore her no matter what she does for at least half a yr. After word if she contacts me again I basically go straight to asking for the boob pics and don't relent if she keeps texting. If they don't provide I tell them i'm bored and going to bed, cutting the lawn, ect. Basically I let them know if sex isn't on the table I got no time for them. They either get the hint & leave me alone forever or i'm bedding them shortly. Also, when I do bed them, they still act flaky. But i don't mind cause like I still banged them. 1
Author Stage5Clinger Posted August 8, 2015 Author Posted August 8, 2015 I made it worse by trying to be nice to her again.. She's straight treating me like dirt now.
Author Stage5Clinger Posted August 8, 2015 Author Posted August 8, 2015 Sounds like she's got you by the balls my friend. Feels like ****! Going no contact for 3 weeks resetting the timer and dating my less attractive friend who treats me well.
RebelWithoutACause Posted August 8, 2015 Posted August 8, 2015 When a woman does this to me I ignore her. When she gets annoying wondering why i'm no longer paying attention to her I call her out on her flakiness, tell her she sucks as a friend then tell her I'm only interested in dating, but not her because her behavior is a massive turn-off. Then ignore her no matter what she does for at least half a yr. After word if she contacts me again I basically go straight to asking for the boob pics and don't relent if she keeps texting. If they don't provide I tell them i'm bored and going to bed, cutting the lawn, ect. Basically I let them know if sex isn't on the table I got no time for them. They either get the hint & leave me alone forever or i'm bedding them shortly. Also, when I do bed them, they still act flaky. But i don't mind cause like I still banged them. Stage5Clinger, that's some solid advice right there^, bro. Stick to it. Worst case scenario, you get to bang some chicks.
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