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It's been about 3 months since the break-up, a little over a month of no contact. The no contact is definitely helping me get over her, I'm happy to say that I can easily go the majority of my day without thinking of her- even when I'm not distracted.

 

However, I have dreams of her on occasion. Really vivid dreams, mostly intimate and romantic, which really set me back the next morning- even during most of the day.

 

I wake up feeling sad and lonely, with an intense urge to call or text her because the dreams make me miss her so much. The feelings remind me of the first few weeks after the breakup, which was the worst. By the time I get out of bed and start eating breakfast, most of those feelings are gone, thankfully.

 

But it makes me go through the day less happy and energetic, but more angry or sad. I've also noticed that I only have dreams of her after going through a day without really thinking of her.

 

Did anyone else have this problem? How did you cope?

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Since you were invested in the relationship, your feelings ran more deeper than hers, it's normal to think about your Ex-Girlfriend a lot, if the breakup is fresh, she's going to be on your mind a lot and even going to certain places and seeing something is going to bring back old memories of her.

 

How to cope with it? You have to give yourself some time, some things don't happen overnight, they take their time.

 

The thoughts of your Ex would still linger on your mind, but there would come a time when you would have learned to deal with it by not caring that much, you will become stronger day by day and perhaps start seeing your Ex in a different light. Slowly but surely you would reach the point of indifference with her.

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I had a similar problem, but my dreams were not romantic at all. They were more like nightmares. I dreamt I was screaming at my ex, fighting with him or hitting him. I usually woke up crying and threw up a few times. It probably has to do with the fact he cheated and at the time I felt like he ripped out a piece of my soul. The nightmares went on for a couple a months until I finally saw a counsellor. She taught me how to meditate and how to be kind to myself. I used to blame myself for choosing someone so disgusting. I didn't understand how I could have fallen for someone so shallow and despicable. When I started accepting none of it was my fault, I started healing and the nightmares stopped.

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Yes but said dreams are less frequent. Mornings are still the hardest time though. Hang in there, we are with you.

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