fitnessfan365 Posted August 8, 2015 Posted August 8, 2015 Was it terrible to discuss it via text? Yes. But... Based on how severely she overreacted, something seems really off. One thing to consider is that she might've cheated on you at some point over the last few years. Then your discussion touched a nerve about it, and she projected/flipped it on you to cover her guilt. People tend to do this when they're trying to avoid the truth about something. Now granted this is pure speculation on my part. However, you have to wonder why she'd go to such extremes in her reaction as to say you ruin her life and she hates you. Seems a bit irrational and over the top. 1
Author seekin Posted August 9, 2015 Author Posted August 9, 2015 Thanks to everyone who replied. I agree her reaction is over the top and a question why such a strong response. We are okay right now, but my friends and family, and now you guys have all said she is really immature. I have some decisions to make. and PS she said her friend doesnt care aout the affair, so I shouldnt either.
Author seekin Posted August 9, 2015 Author Posted August 9, 2015 Was it terrible to discuss it via text? Yes. But... Based on how severely she overreacted, something seems really off. One thing to consider is that she might've cheated on you at some point over the last few years. Then your discussion touched a nerve about it, and she projected/flipped it on you to cover her guilt. People tend to do this when they're trying to avoid the truth about something. Now granted this is pure speculation on my part. However, you have to wonder why she'd go to such extremes in her reaction as to say you ruin her life and she hates you. Seems a bit irrational and over the top. I agree. She does, however, do this a lot. But def. is weird.
Clarity4us Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 (edited) my last gf was the same problem. I not only had to deal with a great past but also her being BEST friends with the guy. I never got used to it. I just tuned it out. It ended up nagging at me and her stories would often creep in my head. The whole thing was bonkers but I tried to make it work. You have to forgive their past but with mine she acted like it was still her present. Her comments were off putting and she acted like I needed some teaching of the casual ways...ummm no thanks but let me know how that turns out in the end...haha. Like I am just young and I am older than her. I was baffled by some of the crap but if you truly love her forgive her and let her prove she is capable of loving you, but that friend thing has to go...it never will go away. It is very depressing. It is like her past was following us around all the time...So god damn irritating and immature. It didn't work so I have no advice. Edited August 9, 2015 by Clarity4us
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