Michaelsxi Posted August 6, 2015 Posted August 6, 2015 Ok so me and my long distance ex broke up about a year ago as we could no longer do the distance & things began to get rocky and some things were said. I thought this was best because it hurt missing her so much. Although we were still very much in love because we were each other's first love. She moved to university in another country (she had already made plans to go before we met) and it was so hard for us because we were so in love, we talked marriage, kids names etc, there were even times she wanted to leave & come home but I'd always discourage her because I wanted better for her, wanted her to get an education. It turned out she couldn't come home for summers because after months of struggling with uni debts she got a good job over there & NEEDED to keep it to support herself as she was in debt and had no money. I gave her all the money I could spare to help her when she was struggling but it wasn't enough she needed a job. So we made it through her first year then 'broke up' but any time she visited home we were clawing to see each other in secret! And we did. We even stayed in hotels & confessed our love for each other! Although we knew this could not continue because it still felt as if we were in a relationship and we kept getting hurt! This continued right through her second your of uni. So about 3 months ago we agreed to properly stop talking (on good terms) but now she has a new boyfriend and she's already brought him home to meet her family who I got on really well with. The problem is I still love her & it hurts me so much! I want her back but feel its impossible & I also know she finishes her degree in 2016 and is due to return home in the summer, it gives me hope but it also makes me think she might stay in the other country for her new boyfriend. I always thought when she got home we'd get back together. I would really appreciate good advice.
mightycpa Posted August 6, 2015 Posted August 6, 2015 Ok so me and my long distance ex broke up about a year ago as we could no longer do the distance & things began to get rocky and some things were said. I thought this was best because it hurt missing her so much. Although we were still very much in love because we were each other's first love. She moved to university in another country (she had already made plans to go before we met) and it was so hard for us because we were so in love, we talked marriage, kids names etc, there were even times she wanted to leave & come home but I'd always discourage her because I wanted better for her, wanted her to get an education. It turned out she couldn't come home for summers because after months of struggling with uni debts she got a good job over there & NEEDED to keep it to support herself as she was in debt and had no money. I gave her all the money I could spare to help her when she was struggling but it wasn't enough she needed a job. So we made it through her first year then 'broke up' but any time she visited home we were clawing to see each other in secret! And we did. We even stayed in hotels & confessed our love for each other! Although we knew this could not continue because it still felt as if we were in a relationship and we kept getting hurt! This continued right through her second your of uni. So about 3 months ago we agreed to properly stop talking (on good terms) but now she has a new boyfriend and she's already brought him home to meet her family who I got on really well with. The problem is I still love her & it hurts me so much! I want her back but feel its impossible & I also know she finishes her degree in 2016 and is due to return home in the summer, it gives me hope but it also makes me think she might stay in the other country for her new boyfriend. I always thought when she got home we'd get back together. I would really appreciate good advice.My advice would be, if you really love somebody, and they love you back, try and make it work. Don't throw it away because it is impractical. Change whatever is impractical, or outlast the difficulty. You tossed this fish back into the sea, and now she's in another fisherman's net. It doesn't really matter now how noble you were, does it? Anyway, sorry to hear how your tale turned out. Maybe you will be together, and she's just passing the time. You never know. 1
TaraMaiden2 Posted August 6, 2015 Posted August 6, 2015 There is no advice to be given. You need to drop this, resume your life and move on. You have nothing to wait for, because she has moved on. You have no choice but to do the same. 1
Author Michaelsxi Posted August 6, 2015 Author Posted August 6, 2015 I wouldn't even know to rekindle it because she is not here! And that's the problem if she was here we'd be together!
TaraMaiden2 Posted August 6, 2015 Posted August 6, 2015 No, I don't agree, that's not necessarily the case. If she's had her head turned while she was away from you, there is no guarantee it would never have happened, even if she had been with you. First Loves rarely last to be great last loves. Many people have had their hearts broken by their first loves breaking up with them and spreading their wings... even while in close proximity. And I hate to tell you, but most of those dumpers were the ladies.
Author Michaelsxi Posted August 6, 2015 Author Posted August 6, 2015 Not to argue but I know her, she had a really tough time with the break up and was always the one contacting me when she was drunk & wanting to meet up when we were home! I never rang her or contacted her at all because I was trying to move on. It was always her Yano. After the break up we continued to see each long distance for nearly a year!
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