grokcahsevol Posted August 6, 2015 Posted August 6, 2015 Hey everyone! Well, it's certainly nice to be in a different section of the site instead of the breakup section for once lol. A quick background I (guy) was with my ex for 9 years and she left me for a girl (that she dated when she was 13 years old) That was quick, wasn't it? Here is my question. I met this really cool girl about 2 weeks ago at a concert and we went to another concert yesterday with a guy friend of hers and 2 guy friends of mine. The first time we met she was very talkative to me and we laughed and just had fun. Yesterday, before we all started drinking she sat next to me on the train and our legs were touching (yeah, who cares) Then when we started drinking a little she started to get very flirty, grabbing me and holding my hands, hugging me, and so on. I watched her actions, and she didn't act like this with any other guy we were with. While we were all walking to the show, I made her laugh the entire time as she did to me. Some points she was DYING laughing. At one point, we passed a lesbian couple and my friend made a joke about it as my ex is with a girl now. As soon as he mentioned my ex name, the girl we were with turned around and she said "No!, Shush!" She did it in a laughing way, wasn't being crazy. During the show we laughed and sang together and she was always next to me and at times she would continue to grab my hand. At one point earlier in the day she said "I feel like I've known you for a long time" My question is, how do I know if shes into me or if shes normally flirty like this with other guys? Shes an awesome girl, pretty, and fun to be around, although we only hung out twice.. we are going to another show this weekend. I obviously don't want to get attached to this girl cause shes cool to hang with as a friend, but this is the first time where I haven't thought about my ex! Which was amazing. Any tips/advice
PaperCrane Posted August 6, 2015 Posted August 6, 2015 Take her on a date and try for a kiss. Why? You'll know if you like her more than as described. You're being defensive with your walls, and that's normal. If you're into her at all, and think she might be, well...
Author grokcahsevol Posted August 6, 2015 Author Posted August 6, 2015 Take her on a date and try for a kiss. Why? You'll know if you like her more than as described. You're being defensive with your walls, and that's normal. If you're into her at all, and think she might be, well... It's been so long for me but would I ask her "Hey, wanna go on a date" or "Hey, wanna go out to eat or go on the boat" I guess, I'm afraid of making things awkward and pushing her away as a friend also, not sure if it means anything, but she takes a very long time to text back
aloneinaz Posted August 6, 2015 Posted August 6, 2015 (edited) My advice, PLAY IT COOL and don't smoother her! It's a natural thing for you to want to do after starting to move past your ex. Be patient in not rushing into trying to date her. I know a lot of people, who start to date again after a heartbreak, get impatient, needy and clingy. They contact the new person too much and scare them off. They forget this new person isn't their significant other and want to contact them all the time, like they did with their ex. Go hang out with her this weekend at the concert. Try and feel her vibes and if you feel like she likes you, ask her out on a date. Women are not shy to let a guy know they have interest in them. Just read their body language. Don't miss reading her signs. Heck, you could end of making out w/her at the concert. Final thought.. Don't get to emotionally invested in this girl. It's another thing that people do fresh out of a R/S. They get over excited about the potential of someone new and way over think it. When I was dating, I NEVER but all my eggs in one basket. I wanted to be dating 2-3 girls so I didn't put all my thoughts into just the one I had on the line. Congrats for recognizing there are MILLIONS of other single people on this planet and you can't meet them sitting home, crying and pining over the ex! Edited August 6, 2015 by aloneinaz
Author grokcahsevol Posted August 7, 2015 Author Posted August 7, 2015 My advice, PLAY IT COOL and don't smoother her! It's a natural thing for you to want to do after starting to move past your ex. Be patient in not rushing into trying to date her. I know a lot of people, who start to date again after a heartbreak, get impatient, needy and clingy. They contact the new person too much and scare them off. They forget this new person isn't their significant other and want to contact them all the time, like they did with their ex. Go hang out with her this weekend at the concert. Try and feel her vibes and if you feel like she likes you, ask her out on a date. Women are not shy to let a guy know they have interest in them. Just read their body language. Don't miss reading her signs. Heck, you could end of making out w/her at the concert. Final thought.. Don't get to emotionally invested in this girl. It's another thing that people do fresh out of a R/S. They get over excited about the potential of someone new and way over think it. When I was dating, I NEVER but all my eggs in one basket. I wanted to be dating 2-3 girls so I didn't put all my thoughts into just the one I had on the line. Congrats for recognizing there are MILLIONS of other single people on this planet and you can't meet them sitting home, crying and pining over the ex! Yeah, I think I'm gonna take the route of playing it cool and not bombard her with texts or anything. Her body language was definitely 100% into me, but I suppose I don't know her well enough yet to know if shes like this with other guys she may be interested in. I know I can't and shouldn't get too emotionally involved, and as you said.. I'm getting overly excited.. however, I rather be excited then sitting home, crying and pinning over ex! haha
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