YouGotServed Posted May 8, 2005 Posted May 8, 2005 Here is my original thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t60860/ Since it has been 2 months of NC, my ex has not attempted or even tried to contact me. I have continued with the coping and the NC. Since its Mother's Day tomorrow, would it be alright to send an ecard without any writing to my ex's mother?. We were close but after the breakup, I have not spoken to her mom for almost 2 months as well. Please let me know your thoughts.....
ConfusedInOC Posted May 8, 2005 Posted May 8, 2005 Originally posted by YouGotServed Here is my original thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t60860/ Since it has been 2 months of NC, my ex has not attempted or even tried to contact me. I have continued with the coping and the NC. Since its Mother's Day tomorrow, would it be alright to send an ecard without any writing to my ex's mother?. We were close but after the breakup, I have not spoken to her mom for almost 2 months as well. Please let me know your thoughts..... No. Stick with NC and do NOT break under any circumstances. If the ex doesn't break first, then you know it was never meant to be.
Author YouGotServed Posted May 8, 2005 Author Posted May 8, 2005 Originally posted by ConfusedInOC No. Stick with NC and do NOT break under any circumstances. If the ex doesn't break first, then you know it was never meant to be. Thanks for the advice Confused. I agree, the best way is to maintain the NC and let time heal itself.
Author YouGotServed Posted June 6, 2005 Author Posted June 6, 2005 It has been awhile since I last posted here but I wanted to get people's opinions. Just last week, my ex's friend contacted me saying that she had something of value to return to me. However, I am still on NC and have been for almost 3 months. Why is she going through 3rd party?. Why can't she just face me in person?. This is the second time she has used her friends instead of facing me in person. Thoughts?
Jess xx Posted June 6, 2005 Posted June 6, 2005 Do not send the card! Be proud that you've achieved NC for 2 months, I have been doing it for 6 weeks and it really is the only way to heal, do not go backwards now, you'd feel awful. With regards to the messages through her friend, tell the friend to pass the stuff onto you asap, then it can stop messing with your head. I wouldn't read too much into into it, keep reminding yourself that if your ex wants to contact you she will, not through her friend. Are you sure her friend just doesn't want an excuse to keep talking to you! ha ha.
Author YouGotServed Posted June 6, 2005 Author Posted June 6, 2005 Originally posted by Jess xx With regards to the messages through her friend, tell the friend to pass the stuff onto you asap, then it can stop messing with your head. I wouldn't read too much into into it, keep reminding yourself that if your ex wants to contact you she will, not through her friend. Are you sure her friend just doesn't want an excuse to keep talking to you! ha ha. I definitely have not called her friend back because as you have said, it has brought back a string of emotions. When her friend called and left a VM, she sounded shaky and scared. Honestly, I think her friend wants to keep talking to me but I don't talk to them. The only person I want to talk to is my ex, who is at this point, running and hiding. Why should I confront my ex? I am not the one who broke it off....
Jess xx Posted June 6, 2005 Posted June 6, 2005 I absolutely agree, you shouldn't confront your ex, I would personally keep ignoring the friend...think about it they will both get the message if you keep ignoring them. Whenever people on LS discuss getting back their stuff from their exes Im always sceptical, I mean my ex has a got a few things of mine I wouldn't mind having back but I can definately live without them so I can keep NC in play!! I haven't read all your posts so don't know your break up circumstances but keep remembering that there is someone out there who is better then your ex, I went on a date last week and it was good, complicated but fun and he wasn't boyf material but I remained open minded and it completely distracted me. Force yourself to go out with friends and be open minded to the new people you meet... Oh and keep your NC going ok!
Author YouGotServed Posted June 6, 2005 Author Posted June 6, 2005 I will eventually need to get it back but at this time, not right now. It is something that she wants to return but I don't understand why a person needs to keep going through her girlfriends to get to me. Why can't the person just pick up the phone, send a text message, email?. Read my thread at: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t60860/ People tell me that I should just let it be because they will continue to call back. I don't really want confrontation and its up to my ex to initiate contact. Why should I call when I am not the one that ended it?.
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