Hex101 Posted August 6, 2015 Posted August 6, 2015 Al right, so I met this girl (great girl), 3 times...and I blew it. My dating skills sitting at...3/10. When is it a suitable time to make a move, talk about becoming in a relationship... We met for coffee, walked for a while it went well. second time dinner, third drinks, but I'm sure she wanted dinner too, kinda went in a down slope. I was being me and instead of talking about her I was discussing things. Dont know how to ....... transition from general and friendly to more exclusive...I think that's the problem. Any Suggestions? Thanks, Hex
ZA Dater Posted August 6, 2015 Posted August 6, 2015 Dont know how to ....... transition from general and friendly to more exclusive...I think that's the problem. Any Suggestions? Thanks, Hex I would love to know the answer to this.
DivorcedDad123 Posted August 6, 2015 Posted August 6, 2015 Did you touch her? Kiss her? Or,was it more like chatting with a buddy? At 3 dates there should be, at least, kissing and physical touch or else you'll come off as not romantically interested. 1
smackie9 Posted August 6, 2015 Posted August 6, 2015 By the second date there should be some physical (kissing) interaction. You don't make a move to be physical with her, you look like you don't have confidence. When you don't have confidence, she gets turned off.....slippery slope....no turning back.
Redhead14 Posted August 6, 2015 Posted August 6, 2015 Al right, so I met this girl (great girl), 3 times...and I blew it. My dating skills sitting at...3/10. When is it a suitable time to make a move, talk about becoming in a relationship... We met for coffee, walked for a while it went well. second time dinner, third drinks, but I'm sure she wanted dinner too, kinda went in a down slope. I was being me and instead of talking about her I was discussing things. Dont know how to ....... transition from general and friendly to more exclusive...I think that's the problem. Any Suggestions? Thanks, Hex Well, you shouldn't be thinking about exclusivity after only 3 dates that's for sure. And/or being intimate yet. You didn't buy her dinner? I don't think you're gonna get those opportunities with this one anyway. You wouldn't be talking about exclusivity for a couple of months at least or unless you'd been intimate with a woman. But even, if you'd been intimate early, all you'd have to do if you were still interested is maintain good and consistent contact and continue dating her until you'd decided you wanted to explore a relationship more deeply with her.
Author Hex101 Posted August 7, 2015 Author Posted August 7, 2015 (edited) You didn't buy her dinner? I don't think you're gonna get those opportunities with this one anyway. Nah I paid the 2nd date. She offered to buy drinks but I'm sure she wanted to have dinner too we had finished work but I'm stupid said I was fine, didn't want her to spend. You guys have given me some good advise.....Yes confidence is my weakness. Question is...how to overcome it....especially in that scenario just so I know for next time. Cheers, Hex Edited August 7, 2015 by Hex101
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