QueenDafine Posted August 6, 2015 Posted August 6, 2015 Me and my ex had a break 4 months ago but it wasn't supposed to be an actual breakup. It happened because of alot of communication problems and stuff. Soo we were really close and everything was perfect until a month before the break where we got really bad. He was like one of my best friends.. anyway after the break things went downhill when he messaged me after 2 months of not talking. We got into a huge argument lots of hurtful things were said and yeah.. it was bad but we got over it. We were talking like good friends and after a week he went off to canada (keep in mind I haven't seen him in 3 months this is all over text) and judging by the photos he had a great time. A great time with heaps of girls he was pictured golding hands with and dancing with at clubs? Yeah that pissed me off and I was so angry and hurt that I just couldn't even be ****ed feeling like this AGAIN. Because everytime I talked to him before the break I was felt depressed and sad and just down and now I saw that it was happening all over again and really I didnt have a reason to keep talking to him anyway so I just cut communication. I saw the message I didnt reply to it though and for two weeks it was pretty good even though I was still missing him. He was online only for two days but saw I was ignoring him. So last weekend I woke up to my phone buzzing and he was calling me at 2am, probably drunk. I ignored that then the next night he called me 4 times at 7pm knowing I'd be on my phone that time. The bad thing is I didn't go online once that weekend because I didn't even want him to see I was ingnoring him again! I came on anyway and ignored him but then he started to message me and I felt so bad.. I never ignore him because he just like my best friend..anyway I caved in and replied back to him, Apologising and stuff and sending him new songs I love (we always do that) and yeah. He replied back the next morning pretty chill about it and I relaized it was a biggg mistake I dont even want to talk to him right now and I kind of wish I didn't reply because now I feel like I have to reply to him from kw on and it just wouldn't make sense to ignore him and this all just sucks. I end up feeling so insecure, lonely, sad and just really down when I message him because we aren't like before and it doesn't help when I know hes probably talking to a bunch of girls when I'm here waiting for his message only and he's the only guy messaging me that isn't a relative or a gay friend. And I have to ask him how his trip went when I dont even want to hear about it much less think about it. Ive just gone and made a whole mess of it again, and I dont know what to do. Also I said I would reply to him and not ignore him which kind of ruins things once again. I just can't talk to him right now but I dont know what to do?? I know for sure he'll be angry and annoyed if I ignore him again but what am I supposed to do? It's good for him but im here suffering. How do I apply the NC rule AGAIN?? I feel like I cant go back and just leave him but this things is also leaving me feeling so insecure and unhappy and I can't go through it again..
Toodaloo Posted August 6, 2015 Posted August 6, 2015 You say "sorry really busy at the mo - can't chat". Then you get on with life and every time you want to cave in you look for something else to distract you.
PegNosePete Posted August 6, 2015 Posted August 6, 2015 How do I apply the NC rule AGAIN?? It's easy. You just block him on every form of communication you use. Delete his contact, delete his phone number, delete and BLOCK him from social networks. Do not contact him ever again. Easy.
Author QueenDafine Posted August 6, 2015 Author Posted August 6, 2015 I can't though?? Honestly I think going that far is childish (between us), almost everyone I know/am friends with he knows/is friends with too so it wouldn't make a difference, no explanation would be horrible, it would hurt him alot and I woulnt delete anyone out of my life that has made me better/has been one of my best friends and rock. I just need to know about stopping all contact because I can't deal with this feeling. I know it all sounds dumb but deleting him like that just won't work..
elaine567 Posted August 6, 2015 Posted August 6, 2015 Who actually initiated the break up? Him or you?
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