PandahHeart Posted August 6, 2015 Posted August 6, 2015 I've been working at a restaurant with this person for a while now. I talk to him when ever it is super slow. We flirt sometimes and he teases me. He's touched my hand a few times. He has even given me a compliment. He always asks me questions like "does your boyfriend bring you flowers ever?" and when I reply with no, he will ask me if I like them. He always asks me if my boyfriend ever does anything for me. When I come in for my shift he always says "Hey A, how are you?" and smiles at me. Sometimes I will catch him looking at me, and we will acknowledge each other until I usually look away. He even told me that he respects me, which something a guy has never told me (pretty sure that is a good thing though lol). One of my co workers told me that she over heard him saying that I was attractive, when he was talking to another worker. I've also noticed he's not overly friendly with the other female workers like he is with me. He hardly ever talks to them unless it's a manager. However, I did find out that he does have a girlfriend. I had no idea that he did, either. The only thing I know about their relationship is that they don't live together. But we do have an age gap. He is 33, while I am just 20. I do like him a lot, but now I'm crushed that he does have a girlfriend. I'm not sure if they are serious or anything, and I don't want to intentionally ruin anything if he is serious.
Fleur de cactus Posted August 7, 2015 Posted August 7, 2015 The only way to find out is to talk to him. You can have a convo and say something like, hey I saw your girlfriend yesterday, or does your girlfriend work at ....., if he said we are not longer g/f; b/f anymore, you can ask if he sees someone. Your conversation may show you how much interest he has in you. Good luck.
smackie9 Posted August 7, 2015 Posted August 7, 2015 Danger: he's a wolf in sheep's clothing. Here's a guy, playing footsies at work with a much young female coworker, acting single all the while he has a GF. He intentionally strung you along, and probably hoped you never found out he was with someone. You are young and I don't know how much experience you have, but I know he is "grooming" you. All he is doing is buttering you up to make you think he will treat you better than any BF, and OMG the "I respect you" line....seriously that is an oldie but a goody. Filling your head with flattery, flirtation....giving only YOU special attention. It's all play hun....better run.
RebelWithoutACause Posted August 7, 2015 Posted August 7, 2015 Just because someone likes you doesn't mean they necessarily want to date you much less leave their GF for you. He might find you attractive and enjoy chatting occasionally but nothing in your story indicates anything more serious than that. People flirt all the time, it's meaningless. The perfect tell tale sign that somebody wants to go out with you? If they ask you out. Everything else is just passing time at work, don't read too much into it. More to the point though you absolutely do not want to get involved with somebody already in a relationship. Never ever. And if someone who has a GF is actively pursuing you (which this guy is not doing, to his credit) that makes him a creep and an all around sh!!ty person and you don't want someone like that in your life.
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