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Agreed to be friends with benefits but her heart was beating so fast when we kissed..

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What does that mean? We were holding hands and hugging and kissing and her heartrate was really high.

 

Is that normal when you're 'casual'?

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Physical interaction with the prospect of sex will have anyone's heart pounding.....sex and love are two different things, one can exist without the other. If they weren't sexually attracted to you, then they wouldn't want to sleep with you or even kiss you for that matter. So yes it can happen if it's casual.

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I would not read so much into it. When my BF and first started being together, he was SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO nervous; his heart raced like a hamster on crack. Was it love back then? No, I think he was just effing nervous. Now, nearly a year later, when feelings have deepened, he's much more relaxed.

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Gotta say, you sound a bit invested yourself OP. I mean if you were really in a "casual" state of mind, you wouldn't care what her heartrate meant. So are you being honest w-yourself in what you want?

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Gotta say, you sound a bit invested yourself OP. I mean if you were really in a "casual" state of mind, you wouldn't care what her heartrate meant. So are you being honest w-yourself in what you want?

Yeah, this whole FB, or FWB things is very, very rarely exactly what both parties want, or continue to want...

 

Sex is by its very nature intimate, at some point one or both parties will develop feelings for the other.

 

Frankly people who can just have meaningless sex with the same person over and over and never get attracted to them...oh wait, I did that once...oops!

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Yeah, this whole FB, or FWB things is very, very rarely exactly what both parties want, or continue to want...

 

Sex is by its very nature intimate, at some point one or both parties will develop feelings for the other.

 

 

 

***Frankly people who can just have meaningless sex with the same person over and over and never get attracted to them.****oh wait, I did that once...oops!

 

I've never had a FWB so maybe I'm missing something, but FWB's aren't attracted to each other?

 

I would think on a very basic fundamental level, there would have to *some* physical attraction ....otherwise why continue having sex together? What's the point if there is no attraction?

 

I get that it's not a deep emotional/ mental attraction such that they would want a *relationship " but not even a physical attraction?

 

I find that hard to believe......

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What does that mean? We were holding hands and hugging and kissing and her heartrate was really high.

 

Is that normal when you're 'casual'?

 

It's normal when you're physically attracted to someone, serious or casual.

Popsicle Established Member

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Just see what happens...

yxalitis Established Member

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I've never had a FWB so maybe I'm missing something, but FWB's aren't attracted to each other?

 

I would think on a very basic fundamental level, there would have to *some* physical attraction ....otherwise why continue having sex together? What's the point if there is no attraction?

 

I get that it's not a deep emotional/ mental attraction such that they would want a *relationship " but not even a physical attraction?

 

I find that hard to believe......

 

I've never had a FWB so maybe I'm missing something, but FWB's aren't attracted to each other?

 

I would think on a very basic fundamental level, there would have to *some* physical attraction ....otherwise why continue having sex together? What's the point if there is no attraction?

 

I get that it's not a deep emotional/ mental attraction such that they would want a *relationship " but not even a physical attraction?

 

I find that hard to believe......

 

Sorry, I wasn't clear...

 

We aren't talking about physical attraction., but emotional attachment.

I can be physically attracted to, well, anyone really, even dating super hot awesome sex machines isn't enough if you don't have some deeper, more fundamental connection, be it spiritual, emotional, "core values" or whatever.

mystikmind2005 Established Member

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More often than not, people in FWB situations choose that option for logical reasons.

 

Unfortunately, emotions don't know what the hell logic is and just do what they like! lol

jay1983 Established Member

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It's typical OP. She likes you a lot, or else you wouldn't have agreed to such a thing.

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Elevated heart rate is a physiologic response, so it'd be normal if she was excited, nervous, and/or aroused. Because you're asking this question, it seems like you might want a bit more than FWBs. Or maybe you're just curious. In any case, I hope you've both established boundaries.

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SammySammy Established Member

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Some people have a hard time separating sex and love. Or the feeling of love.

torturedartist Established Member

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What does that mean? We were holding hands and hugging and kissing and her heartrate was really high.

 

Is that normal when you're 'casual'?

 

She's already showing signs of Coronary Artery Disease. Find out if she has a good life insurance policy. If she does, marry her. If not, find someone who's heartrate remains fairly normal when she hugs and kisses guys.

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Darn, you could tell her heart was beating fast? - I wish I could do that.

 

Yeah, there is usually some attraction there even if they just want a half-baked relationship. Think about it.... you would not want to kiss the bag lady in the alley who has green teeth, now would ya?! :lmao: (it's the same for her)

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Darn, you could tell her heart was beating fast? - I wish I could do that.

 

Yeah, well we were kissing and hugged afterwards and I could feel her heart pounding on my chest.

 

I've had these casual things before, but never have I experienced this increased heartrate everytime I touch her.

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