katiegrl Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 I hope you mean to get new hobbies for yourself and not to get a man because a man doesn't care what your hobbies are, a man just wants a well rounded person with her own interests, no matter those interests. I think any reason to develop new interests (hobbies) is a good one. Many people develop new interests to become more interesting to the opposite sex. Not a bad reason, as long as it's something they are genuinely interested in. It's kinda of a win-win. IMO. 1
Lansing Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 Sometimes I think you are pulling our legs!! Yeah, I agree here. I don't know if it is a bannable offence to accuse someone of being a troll but that is how I feel now. I mean, for someone to not listen to any advice but to keep coming back for more. There has got to be a limit. 2
Versacehottie Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 (edited) As far as hobbies go, mine aren't all that interesting, so now I'm thinking about getting some new hobbies, I mean walking a mile and doing Zumba class isn't something you can call a hobby, neither is watching tv. Ok, that's a good enough start. Now just expand and be passionate about those things. Most people who have dogs don't just walk them, they love them and can go for quite a while about them. Also it's a dealbreaker if new guy doesn't like dogs for most people. See why it's important to talk about this stuff? Whether it's organic and flowy from tangents or in a direct question. Zumba shows you care about your health and like to dance. And you must have some TV shows you are crazy about. Now that you are thinking about some new hobbies, you don't have to answer his questions precisely. You can say with excitement, "you know what I've been meaning to try_______". Fill in the blank, expand, bat the question back to him or go off on a tangent created by the question. You "think" you're boring which is why I think you are really offended by the question. Deep down, even quieter people, don't have to be boring. You just have to be sure of yourself. Edited August 10, 2015 by Versacehottie
Author Bobbi7 Posted August 11, 2015 Author Posted August 11, 2015 yep! You are overthinking the whole situation. Many people caught up in the moment of a new relationship make extravagant plans that they can't realistically keep. So, are you saying that he might not contact me at all this week? Or after the 4th date is it "assumed" that there is something established and that we will keep seeing each other regardless that he didn't say anything?
Author Bobbi7 Posted August 11, 2015 Author Posted August 11, 2015 I have discontinued dating a girl on at least one occasion based almost solely on the fact that she did not enjoy my Lego collection (which, by the way, is awesome). What a good idea! Starting up a Lego collection. I do enjoy putting legos together! 1
nadine5 Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 I have discontinued dating a girl on at least one occasion based almost solely on the fact that she did not enjoy my Lego collection (which, by the way, is awesome). My Lego collection is also quite extensive. 1
yxalitis Posted August 11, 2015 Posted August 11, 2015 I HATE small talk. This question is just one of many that happen within OLD first meets. My ideal first OLD or date has no questions. We just exchange stories and observations and natural tangents go off there with almost no need to resort to small talk. That's how I tell if I click with someone friendship or dating wise. Obviously this is a preferred sing of a good compatibility and my best dates have gone that way too... I agree that the pointed Q&A session is usually a sign of someone not familiar with dating, but...it is not offensive! Boring, yes, predictable, yes. But it's not an affront the OP is making it out to be!
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