finalendeavor Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 How did you do it? Did it just take time, or did you have an active strategy?
TaraMaiden2 Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 Simple. I never put them on a pedestal to begin with. 3
mrldii Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 If I screwed up and found out that I had inadvertently placed someone on a pedestal, I'd either dismantle it, step-by-step or simply torch it depending on how urgent the *need* to dispose of it was. 1
loveweary11 Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 Actually, they usually seem to fall off all on their own for me. :lmao: 3
todreaminblue Posted August 6, 2015 Posted August 6, 2015 by accepting they are in fact human just like eveyrone is....good and bad sometimes sinner sometimes saint...and every one except for maybe psychopaths who eat human livers with fava beans or skin people to make lampshades are the same...simply human...and that is a beautiful thing to be...deb
yellowhibiscus Posted August 6, 2015 Posted August 6, 2015 When I was having a hard time getting over my ex and was remembering mostly the good times we had only...I decided one day to write down all of the crap he did. I kept that piece of paper handy and it was kind of like training my brain to think a certain way. One day I realized wow, I don't really miss him that much at all anymore.
BriNyc82 Posted August 6, 2015 Posted August 6, 2015 I've found that taking their + qualities and turning them into negatives helps. For example, my ex was so accommodating and nice. And now it sickens me to know he never had a backbone. I loved the fact that he was so easy to get along with and we never fought but it was bc he never had the balls to speak up! And a third example, I loved our routine of him calling me all the time on his way home from work but I realize he was doing it probably in auto pilot and to keep tabs. So when I get sad or miss him I just keep reminding myself of all the things that I admired about him and turn it into flaws.
BriNyc82 Posted August 6, 2015 Posted August 6, 2015 How did you do it? Did it just take time, or did you have an active strategy? The way you end a relationship says just as much about a person as how they entered it. In time you will take him off the pedestal.
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