mzfeelgood Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 Hi everyone, I'm in a fairly new relationship (3wks), needing your input. Me & my gentleman spoke in 2013 then 2014 but never actually met, live about 10 minutes away from each other. As you may have figured out, we met online. Recently we finally met and hit it off!! On Sunday we had a little "argument" & decided we needed to communicate better, & he apologized because he was in the wrong. On Monday, we went hiking, came home, ate & drank the rest of the evening, & he got mad saying I got so drunk (but he was too). Either way, yesterday I fell depressed if he wanted to continue seeing me, so I spoke to him & he sounded disappointed about the previous drunken night. I am considering checking into rehab. This got me thinking if this will be a way to test this relationship if we really want to be together. I admitted to him yesterday, that I had not been honest with him about my problem which he doesn't seem to think I have a problem (like my family) he said I just need self-control. He wants a committed relationship with me but last night he went into hospital (non-alcohol related health problem), and only told me this morning in response to my text. We spoke 3 times this morning. Later, I suggested I would stop by the hospital on my way to rehab, but later texted me that he was about to be released, and that I didn't need to come.I don't know whether I want to continue the relationship when I get back home, hopefully in less than 10 days. Do u think it's a good way for us to do some soul searching about whether we both really want this relationship? At this point, I am okay now but yesterday I was hurting terribly.
d0nnivain Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 Any 12 step program will encourage you not to start a new relationship while you are in recovery. this won't be a "test" of your relationship. It will end it. You will have too much on your plate to date. If your drinking is so serious that you think you need in patient medical help to get it under control, attend to that before you do anything else. Once you are sober, you should fidn you pick better partners. 2
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