Author GlasgowGuy Posted August 8, 2015 Author Posted August 8, 2015 Hey Guys, Little update ... (Just using this thread to vent some steam now) First 24 hours of no contact complete .... Actually feels like an achievement. I was posting daft snaps to my snapchat story earlier and noticed shes still on there and viewed them more than once. Which to be honest made me chuckle because I was out having fun training for my return to rugby this week. Any pointers guys on how to deal with the Ex's family were still pretty friendly with each other (there on my side)? Thanks
lolablue17 Posted August 8, 2015 Posted August 8, 2015 Any pointers guys on how to deal with the Ex's family were still pretty friendly with each other (there on my side)? Thanks Try to act naturally. Don't ignore them, but also don't try too hard to contact them. You're doing great. If you continue the same way, You'll be fine very quickly.
Author GlasgowGuy Posted August 10, 2015 Author Posted August 10, 2015 HELP REQUIRED GUYS! Things took an unexpected turn today, She turned up at my door yesterday afternoon telling me she had sex with another guy (we aren't together so what) She wanted to tell me face to face .... She seemed cocky a bit too happy in watching me justify it as I could do the same, But at the same time upset .... She went home after I told her we can no longer be, I told family and friends what she has done. There all shocked she could move on so quickly etc etc ...... So later that night her mum was mailing me telling me how sorry she is and i'm still to remain in contact with her because its not my fault. The ex starts texting me, telling me how sorry she is and wants to give us a shot again she still wants to come on Holiday and all the other bull**** (im taking a buddy now anyway)! She thinks she can make things better this is the something new she wanted to try and she now realizes it cost her dear! I'm going out on a date this weekend i'm moving on with my life. Perhaps I should turn up at her door proudly declaring my latest sexual conquest? The thing is it hurts a bit because I was her first and only up until this weekend and she is my first and only as well. She is making this more difficult than it has to be. I'm now having to go off work with depression once I see the doctor in the morning because I can't eat, sleep or function properly! This has been 3 weeks of hell for me Any input guys would be great?
lolablue17 Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 You can't avoid the pain, because it's a painful situation. But I think that the way you think and act is great. It means that you have a common sense and that you have balls. This way will lead you to a better place very soon. If you take the other way - (getting back with your Ex, forgiving her etc...) than you won't heal at all. it will all become much worse. Running back to you AFTER she's tried someone else for one night, and wanting you back so fast - It's like cheating to me. She was "cheating" on you, even though not technically. Just go to your trip with your buddy, go to your date, and next time she shows up in your place, kick her out and don't talk to her.
ExpatInItaly Posted August 10, 2015 Posted August 10, 2015 First of all, and if I may be blunt, both you need to keep your business between yourselves. Why did you tell friends and family that she slept with someone else? You were broken up. I understand you're hurt, but I don't understand why you shared this so openly. I get needing a confidante or two to vent and share these things with, but I don't quite get what you stood to gain by revealing this. Also, her mom emailing you is strange. It tells me there's a lack of boundaries; it is not up to her mother to be contacting you. She needs to butt out. I wouldn't reply to that, or I would reply along the lines of "This isn't an easy time for either of us, but I appreciate your concern. Thank you." The end. This is between you and your ex, not her parents or your parents or mutual friends. Second, tell her not to come to your house any more. Ask her not to phone you at work, unless it's for work-related reasons. You're doing well so far. Take that breather from work so you can clear your mind and get some rest. I'm not sure going on a date would be a good idea at this point. It's awesome that you're trying to put yourself out there again, but I simply don't think you're ready for it. That's not fair to you or your date. Focus on yourself for a while and rebuilding your life as a single man.
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