Heylol112 Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 Well we been dating for almost 6 years. we had a abortion last year in march ever since then we have been on and off. because her condition wasn't very good. she couldn't handle it and two months later we had to do it because i didn't want her to suffer. and we been on and off ever since then. it was fine perfectly before that. just after that it started to go on and off. Partially why she broke up with me is because i told people about the baby. and she said she could never forgive me. and that i tell people about my problems. and she hated that. then the last time i talked to her. she said that i will never changed and didn't want to try anymore. i gave her a promise ring on valentines day and she was like the happiest girl alive. but we broke up after because of religion then i got back saying i'd learn but thats it. and she always talked about having kids and a future and what we were going to do. but she can never forget what happen in the past. she would always bring it up. when i was trying to stop. I know she needs therapy, but idk why she does this all the time. i even told her one time to not text me for awhile til you finish your therapy. because she said she needed it to forget about it. but a week later she texted me and totally ignored the thought of it. and Now she's dating someone else after a month. but i feel like she is trying to fill the void i guess. But it seems like there going too fast and put it out there. but idk. What do you guys think? she's probably damaged pretty bad. so i guess this new guys gives her alot of attention but will that really work knowing she dated me for such a long time and i was her first love and longest relationship ever. I've helped her though all her struggles from when she didn't have much.
Chi townD Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 That's the problem. Usually couples that experience an abortion tend to end shortly afterwards. Even when it's the girl that wants the abortion and the guy doesn't have any input or say in the matter. That operation can affect girls afterwards with a sense of loss and messes up their hormones for a while. By look at you everyday reminds them of what they gave up and subconsciously, they start to recent you for putting them in a situation to make them feel bad about their decision. You turn into the reason why they feel bad, you're the reason why they feel regret, you're the reason why they are suffering internal turmoil. Of course, that's not fair to you, but they look at you and they feel regret. So, they think that getting rid of you would remove the constant reminder of what they've done. Your best bet is to remain in strict NC. You need to block her from all of social media and move on with your life. You need to mourn your losses. You need to take care of the only thing you have control over and that's YOU. I'm sorry this happened to you and I'm sorry for your losses.
Author Heylol112 Posted August 12, 2015 Author Posted August 12, 2015 (edited) That's the problem. Usually couples that experience an abortion tend to end shortly afterwards. Even when it's the girl that wants the abortion and the guy doesn't have any input or say in the matter. That operation can affect girls afterwards with a sense of loss and messes up their hormones for a while. By look at you everyday reminds them of what they gave up and subconsciously, they start to recent you for putting them in a situation to make them feel bad about their decision. You turn into the reason why they feel bad, you're the reason why they feel regret, you're the reason why they are suffering internal turmoil. Of course, that's not fair to you, but they look at you and they feel regret. So, they think that getting rid of you would remove the constant reminder of what they've done. Your best bet is to remain in strict NC. You need to block her from all of social media and move on with your life. You need to mourn your losses. You need to take care of the only thing you have control over and that's YOU. I'm sorry this happened to you and I'm sorry for your losses. So i guess there nothing i can do huh? I talked to some people who have gotten abortions and they say that if she doesn't get help it'll just eat up inside her and make her miserable with all her other problems she has already. They also said that she is just looking for a way to run away from all our years together and all her problems because what she's doing won't work in the long run if she doesn't get help. but idk really. its not up to me either. Edited August 12, 2015 by Heylol112
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