Momb0t Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 Hi Im currently in university, where I have met this girl. We met actually a few months back, whereby she actually interviewed me in my application to join a club. My first impression was she was quite cute, but I didnt think much about it. Once i got accepted into the club, we were designated to actually work in the same group. For the initial months into the club, we didnt speak much to each other as we were kind of in different cliques. But we would exchange pleasantries here and there. 3 weeks ago, she messaged me regarding some club stuff. Her text were all really short and formal. I then took the opportunity to talk to her. Using our common liking of animals to push the conversation. It went well and we started to exchange texts for a few days straight. Although it seemed she was always slower to reply me, taking hours at times. At the next club meeting after the series of text, she seemed excited to see me i think. She approached me several times regarding minor stuff during that session. I just played it cool and did not really try to advance anything that night. That weekend, I decided to just ask her out for supper, to sort of see whether it was my overthinking at the meeting. I asked her pretty last minute, on the night itself. She accepted and replied somewhat excitedly to it. After I picked her at her house at midnight and we had supper and talked for about 3.5hrs. Not much physical contact but with shoulder brushing at times. She would glance at her phone here and there, but nothing too long. Got a text after that 'date', with her thanking me for the car ride and the meal. The 'date' ended when the shop we were at closed and she said she needed the loo and said she would just go back home to use the loo. Im unsure whether this was a bad sign of her trying to end the date. Although she had activities for that morning and there was really not much to do in the area anyway. Its been almost 5 days now since we last texted each other. With her initiating the last text. Considering that we have a weekly meeting, is she holding out texting to me, knowing that we will still see each other relatively soon? Or is it a case of her lack of interest. Im planning to ask her out again at the next meeting too, if she seems interested in me at the meeting.
Lovelorn00 Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 I don’t think her wanting to use the loo was a bad sign at all. It sounds like it was rather late, so she was probably tired and/or wanted to make sure she didn’t stay out too late due to her morning activities. Texting drives me crazy. Not the actual act of texting itself, but just all of the worry that it causes in the early stages of dating. I’m guilty of over-analyzing texts (or lack of texts) as well. What I’ve learned is that just because someone isn’t texting you daily, it doesn’t necessarily mean they’re not interested. ESPECIALLY when you first start dating. I don’t expect anyone I’ve been on one date with to get into the habit of texting me daily. It’s cool if it happens, but I don’t think anything of it when it’s that early. Later in the relationship, it would bother me, especially if our texting habits were consistent and there was a sudden change, but I wouldn’t read anything into it after one date. Keep your expectations low in the early stages. That’s what I’ve always been told, though it’s incredibly difficult to follow that rule sometimes. I think it’s awesome that you’re planning on asking her out again. I think you’ll know more about her interest level then. Good luck!
Author Momb0t Posted August 6, 2015 Author Posted August 6, 2015 Yeah trying to keep my expectations down, but it sure is difficult. Im just gonna try to look out for signs of interest meanwhile. Any obvious signs i should look out for? That helps me to determine whether she is just being 'friends' with me or looking out for more of a relationship. Im planning to ask her out to a beach-picnic. Hope it works!
yxalitis Posted August 6, 2015 Posted August 6, 2015 You are WAY over analysing this! Look, no matter what you think you know, what you really know, and what you have no fracking clue about, at the end of the day she either digs you or she doesn't, right? So just CALM DOWN, and don't blow it by being overly sensitive about everything she says and does.
Gary S Posted August 6, 2015 Posted August 6, 2015 You are doing well.... picked her up from her house and had a good date. I would ease up on the texting though and just call her on the phone once a week for a date.......playing hard to get doubles interest. Besides, you see her at the group anyway. The other thing you need to do is kiss her on the second date. Like Robin Williams used to say, "No pressure"!
Author Momb0t Posted August 6, 2015 Author Posted August 6, 2015 (edited) Update: Ok so we had our club meeting just now. I actually planned to ask her out, but the convo did not build up to a climax like the previous time i ask her out. I actually wanted to ask her out tonight, but she had plans already. Which i guess threw me off my game slightly. Shld i just msg her now and ask her out on a date next week? I know shes with a bunch of girlfriends now as well, is this a good time to message her? Edited August 6, 2015 by Momb0t
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