mammasita Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 As a huge proponent of "do not move in together unless you're married or engaged" I'm breaking my rule. HOWEVER, I'm old(er) and we've been together almost 2 years now (2 years this November). More than enough time for him to know that he can deal with my crazy . I still stand my ground about NEVER moving in with someone before you've been together for at least a year and perhaps I retract my thoughts about being married/engaged first, but.....I do believe you need to know where your relationship is headed and at least discuss marriage if that's what you eventually want. Communication, communication, communication. Cheers :love: 4
Toodaloo Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 As a huge proponent of "do not move in together unless you're married or engaged" I'm breaking my rule. HOWEVER, I'm old(er) and we've been together almost 2 years now (2 years this November). More than enough time for him to know that he can deal with my crazy . I still stand my ground about NEVER moving in with someone before you've been together for at least a year and perhaps I retract my thoughts about being married/engaged first, but.....I do believe you need to know where your relationship is headed and at least discuss marriage if that's what you eventually want. Communication, communication, communication. Cheers :love: Have a pat on the head and a ruff behind the ears... Your not in trouble... This is GOOD news! Rules are only there to be broken anyway so go for it and enjoy living in sin! 4
SycamoreCircle Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 How many square feet we talking? Apartment, house, trailer home?
gaius Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 You two always seemed like one of the good ones mamma, based on how you talk about him and your relationship. So I'm both happy for you and not that surprised. The rulebook tends to go out the window when we know it's right. 2
candie13 Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 Careful, girl ! I know that sometimes relationships have a life of their own and they develop in the direction natural to them, not according to our own desires & wishes. So if it feels the Natural next step to do, go for it. However, do not ignore or be less intune with your deep needs, listen to yourself constantly and make sure that you are happy individually... Happy individuals make happy partners and happy partners are key to a successful relationship ! Cheers 2
Author mammasita Posted August 5, 2015 Author Posted August 5, 2015 How many square feet we talking? Apartment, house, trailer home? LOL! If it matters..... 3 bedroom, 2 1/2 bathroom townhouse, 1650 square feet.
Mascara Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 Ah mammasita, I always felt like we were relationship contemporaries - we met our guys at around the same time . I moved in with him last year and we're engaged now. So pooh to the theory 2
d0nnivain Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 I've lived with 3 men including my husband. It's not the cohabitation that causes problems, it's the reason behind it & the communication before you move in that drive the success of the relationship. Here's to keeping your level head. Best wishes & enjoy! 2
Author mammasita Posted August 5, 2015 Author Posted August 5, 2015 Thanks all....marriage is definitely on the table, and talks of buying a forever home in a year or so (now I'm pretty sure I'm still standing my ground that THAT won't happen without marriage LOL). So all is well. Not to mention he and my dog get along great . 2
Author mammasita Posted August 5, 2015 Author Posted August 5, 2015 Ah mammasita, I always felt like we were relationship contemporaries - we met our guys at around the same time . I moved in with him last year and we're engaged now. So pooh to the theory I think I remember when you moved in together too.....CONGRATS on your engagement 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 I've lived with 3 men including my husband. It's not the cohabitation that causes problems, it's the reason behind it & the communication before you move in that drive the success of the relationship. Here's to keeping your level head. Best wishes & enjoy! Amen to this. Congrats mammasita!! 1
preraph Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 Okay, but don't mix money or buy things together. You have no legal way to straighten that out without marriage. Be sure anything like a car, that you pay your own payments with your own checks so he can't say he made the payments and owns part of the car down the line. I know it's unfathomable, but things go very bad when they do go bad. You never think someone would stoop so low, but they do. 1
Toodaloo Posted August 6, 2015 Posted August 6, 2015 Not to mention he and my dog get along great . Well you do have a great dog!!!
Author mammasita Posted August 6, 2015 Author Posted August 6, 2015 Okay, but don't mix money or buy things together. You have no legal way to straighten that out without marriage. Be sure anything like a car, that you pay your own payments with your own checks so he can't say he made the payments and owns part of the car down the line. I know it's unfathomable, but things go very bad when they do go bad. You never think someone would stoop so low, but they do. Oh absolutely no finances will be mixed until legally married. I'm level headed enough to be smart about that 1
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