Rosielar Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 He is 21 and I'm 19. Three months ago we started dating, there was this huge chemistry between us and he wanted to be with me all the time. He kissed me all the time it was too much so I had to "calm" him down as I wasn't experiencing the same as him, sure I liked him but you get my point. We would go for a coffee, the movies, dinner and he would take me out. He basically did all the work and suddenly points out how he always reaches out first, I didn't do anything about it because he keeps making the plans? Still he points it out every now and then. This one time I went four days without talking to him and he was unhappy about it, ever since then I think we lost some chemistry. He goes on a trip for three weeks but we stayed in touch every day. He would tell me about his day or have me tell about mine, nothing was wrong here except that he was partying all the time and since he's been with a lot of girls I was worried even though we're not committed. When he gets home he starts to try sleeping with me very bad! I kept saying no and instead I would spend the night, have some breakfast maybe do something then go home. I'm aware that there is a lot to talk about but I didn't know how to ask him. We were getting closer, he gets more personal with me. It's going in the right direction until I went another few days without talking to him, I figured it would be good with a little break? After this it wasn't really the same anymore for some reason, he still tries to desperately sleep with me and I keep saying no. He would start booty calling me! After the fifth time I gave in because I wanted to, when I came over I knew it was about one thing and that's what I wanted that night but I was shocked that he nicely wanted me to leave in the morning like a one night stand. I took my clothes and left, didn't speak to him for another few days which is normal by now. Just before that we had dinner together, he confessed his love for someone over Facebook by this quote, in front of all family and friends. I said nothing about it because I was thinking what if it's not about me? Anyways I didn't expect to hear more from him but he reaches out for me out of the blue saying once again that he never hear from me, he wants to start hearing from me. I told him I would so recently I sent him a snapchat because usually that's how we start conversations but he did not reply which is unusual.. And he said that he wants to hear from me? I definitely feel like I have downgraded some sexual partner of all sudden and I don't want it that way. I could drop him right now if I wanted to but I want to make this work. This guy has been with a lot of girls but from what I've heard he is a great guy. This probably very messy but I don't know how to put it, I'm unhappy that things has gotten like this and I wonder why.
guest569 Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 It sounds like you are not reaching out first because you feel insecure, so when he reaches out you feel more secure ? I think you should meet and talk about this and maybe as where it is going and "define" the relationship
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