outdated Posted May 7, 2005 Posted May 7, 2005 So I got a situation that I'm not sure how to deal with. I still have stuff at my ex's house that I need to get back. Not little s@$t either. Namely a treadmill. As an act of good faith before I implemented NC I said she could use it until she gets through the part she's playing. She's an actress in Gypsie and has to strip. All fine and good, as I didn't really want to see her at the time, and there was no point in being a total ass and demanding it back right away. But now, it's almost time to get it- I want it myself exercise is a great way to not think about her, but I'm afraid of all these emotions that are gonna come back when I see her after this time apart. This NC has been very healing although I do miss her and I know I still love her. I want to get over her if there's no other choice, but I want the thing back. I wish I would've taken it back right away and save myself the grief. It's gotta be driving her mad to have it around anyhow because it's mine, but I don't want things to get weird. I guess maybe I thought if I left it with her she'd have some time to think and want me back. Stupid, I know. Pick it up or wait?
bluechocolate Posted May 7, 2005 Posted May 7, 2005 Arrange for a mutual friend to pick it up for you (unless of course what you really want is a convenient excuse to see her).
Author outdated Posted May 7, 2005 Author Posted May 7, 2005 I don't know. I can't really ask a friend to get it- it's huge! It'd be like asking a friend to move my furniture while I sit on my ass. Not trying to make excuses, but I don't really want to put my friends in the middle of it, but I see your point. All the sanity I gained from not communicating with her could be completely blown.
bluechocolate Posted May 7, 2005 Posted May 7, 2005 All the sanity I gained from not communicating with her could be completely blown. If you really feel that way then I would go for the friend option - lend them your car, buy them a case of beer - if they know you're situation surely they would understand. I guess you could feel that you're wussing out but better a wuss for a day than being insane. If you can't ask a friend is it at all possible that you get it when she's not there?
Author outdated Posted May 7, 2005 Author Posted May 7, 2005 Maybe. It'd probably be best, but me and the ex aren't on bad terms. Eventually I'd like to see her again. Maybe I just need to wait until I feel better prepared for the outcome. Damn it, though, I need to run!
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