contel3 Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 I've been dating this guy for a while now. We meet about once every two weeks. At first I was pretty happy about this since I needed a lot of space(bad break up), but now I'm starting to think he is not interested. He does show he likes me, but it's not the same kind of overflowing attention I'm used to. He doesn't blow up my phone the whole time. Doesnt ask to see me 3 times a week. He explicitly said he's looking for a girlfriend but that it's not his priority. should I just let this drop? Continue? Or continue and date other people?
Strahatmak Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 He does show he likes me -- how? But in general... keep your option open... get a life yourself... play along. 1
Gary S Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 Your intuition is right. Gosh I love women's intuition! I just wish they would follow it more and stop rationalizing. One date every two weeks is not a relationship, sorry. I think you really need to see each other once a week on the outside to keep the love flowin' and to have a healthy relationship. And you mentioned 3 times a week- that's probably closer to average. I don't think he's really into you, or he has somebody else on the side.
mystikmind2005 Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 Does he actually know you no longer need the space you needed at the beginning? 2
Stage5Clinger Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 I've been dating this guy for a while now. We meet about once every two weeks. At first I was pretty happy about this since I needed a lot of space(bad break up), but now I'm starting to think he is not interested. He does show he likes me, but it's not the same kind of overflowing attention I'm used to. He doesn't blow up my phone the whole time. Doesnt ask to see me 3 times a week. He explicitly said he's looking for a girlfriend but that it's not his priority. should I just let this drop? Continue? Or continue and date other people? haha this drives me nuts. Girls are never satisfied I swear to god. My last crush I told her how much I liked her over and over to which she replied let's just be friends. Then you give them their space and they think you're not interested. 1
Amalyn Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 I've been dating this guy for a while now. We meet about once every two weeks. At first I was pretty happy about this since I needed a lot of space(bad break up), but now I'm starting to think he is not interested. He does show he likes me, but it's not the same kind of overflowing attention I'm used to. He doesn't blow up my phone the whole time. Doesnt ask to see me 3 times a week. He explicitly said he's looking for a girlfriend but that it's not his priority. should I just let this drop? Continue? Or continue and date other people? What kinds of things does he do to show you he likes you? I'm a firm believer in actions speak louder than words. The fact he only wants to see you once every two weeks would tell me he's either A) Not that interested or B) Seeing someone else too 1
Learningtowalkagain Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 haha this drives me nuts. Girls are never satisfied I swear to god. My last crush I told her how much I liked her over and over to which she replied let's just be friends. Then you give them their space and they think you're not interested. It's a game. You have to give them enough attention to let them know you like them but not enough to show you're needy. It's actually quite annoying because not every girl is the same so you have to be mindful of the amount of attention you give them. So in the beginning you can't like them too much because it kills attraction but you have to keep them interested. 1
JulesB Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 Sounds like a good scenario to me. He's chilled and following along with your original desire of having space. Go with it! 1
Popsicle Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 He explicitly said he's looking for a girlfriend but that it's not his priority. There's your answer. He lacks the desire and drive and his behavior shows this. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 Since you started out needing a lot of space, I'm assuming you told him this? So he's probably trying to respect that. Have you tried talking to him about it and saying that you'd enjoy seeing him a bit more regularly? He's not a mind reader after all. 3
dpn4u Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 (edited) I've been dating this guy for a while now. We meet about once every two weeks. At first I was pretty happy about this since I needed a lot of space(bad break up), but now I'm starting to think he is not interested. He does show he likes me, but it's not the same kind of overflowing attention I'm used to. He doesn't blow up my phone the whole time. Doesnt ask to see me 3 times a week. He explicitly said he's looking for a girlfriend but that it's not his priority. should I just let this drop? Continue? Or continue and date other people? Be honest. Tell him you want to see him more often. He's taking it slow and feeling you out to see if you are clingy. Sounds like you passed. There's nothing wrong with telling someone you want to take it up a notch after a while. You should be happy he's not a needy whiner. He has you wanting more. Isn't that better than the alternative? Either way, end or take it up, you are at that crossroads where you want more. If he doesn't want more now you can give him more time or move on. That's a personal choice. Between you and me I think he's lucky to have you and probably knows it. He's trying to do everything right. Let him know he has �� In your mind tell yourself he's lucky to be having this convo with you and you are rewarding him. Coming from a position of strength and confidence, not desperation, is the key to winning this one. If it works out, reward him for real. Show him that commitment has its rewards. Be a giver that night. You won, share the spoils. You get what you give in love. Make it a banner sex night. He will give it back 2fold because he won too. Confidence and strength will boost an 8/10 woman to 10.5. It's sexy as hell! Edited August 5, 2015 by dpn4u 3
Author contel3 Posted August 5, 2015 Author Posted August 5, 2015 What kinds of things does he do to show you he likes you? I'm a firm believer in actions speak louder than words. One example would be taking a day off work and driving six hours to see me for my birthday. Besides that generally treating me well when we are together. He listens to what I say and remembers everything. Introduces me to his friends.
Author contel3 Posted August 5, 2015 Author Posted August 5, 2015 Since you started out needing a lot of space, I'm assuming you told him this? I made it pretty obvious I was not over my ex when we first met. I haven't told him I'm over it now, so yeah maybe he's not a mind reader haha
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