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cxycxy35 New Member

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Ex is a Greek who works in Ameica as a professor. He's 36 and I'm 25. He's been living in U.S. for over 12 years and according to him, he's desperate for his country. If he has an equivalent job, he'll move back to Greece immediately. We were together for a year and broke up last month because he went back for vacation again for two months and he said he would never marry me because I'm not a Greek. He said next year he's gonna go back for even longer for 3-4 months. He said only greek woman will understand his situation and go back to his country every year. While, he didn't even have the intention to try with me. He said, I have a lot of experience in life, after a few years of marriage, there will be no love for every couple. So love is not powerful enough to overcome the reality. While I was crying in the US, he's already got two sailing trips in the Greek islands and he met a 31 year old Greek woman on the boat. That's not all! He's also dating a 21 year old and a 24 year old and another woman. So four women! He said with the crisis, all Greek women are desperately looking for marriage overseas because they want to get out of Greece. He said if he finds someone, he'll bring her to the U.S., even if she couldn't find any job, he'll support her. WTF? I feel so used! Feels like he didn't care at all about the past year we spent together! I've never dated older man before? Is this how they think, so practical and cold? Or I met a jerk!? I got all the updates in his life yesterday because I came back from a date and I felt guilty so I called him. We talked two hours, very pleasant talking because somehow we have great connection and we always spend good times together. I told him about the guy I met, and he actually gave me dating advice and taught me to delay sex with him as long as I can go make him want me more. WTF?!! I appreciate his honesty about our past and the real reason for our breakup, however I feel so painful. We did video chat on skype yesterday, and I didn't show him my picture at the beginning. He said why I couldn't see you? I replied "you want to see me?" He said" well if you want". His attitude is always like this! "If you want?!" Later he said he wanted to see me, so I turned on my camera. After we finished talking, I send him an email" you're an a**hole. But the lesson is valuable" he replied "go to sleep now" and one hour later he sent me another email "by the way, I'm not an a**hole". Guys, is he a**hole? I feel so sad now

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Well, you've learned all you need to know about the guy. There's not much more to worry about there. It sucks when we run into situations like this but at your age, it's a good life experience for you.

 

 

Honestly, that's a pretty large age gap to overcome. You're also at the age where you should be sowing your oats before settling down into a marriage, especially with someone that much older.

 

 

I don't think you should view it as being used. You got something out of the relationship as well. Yup, he's a douche bag but there's nothing you can do about it now.

 

 

It's good that you're out dating already. Keep dating and enjoy your youth. Before you know it, you'll be in you 40's and will be grateful that you dated around before you got married.

 

 

Also, you need to SSOO ignore this guy going forward. Vanish from his life and go NC. Block him on everything. You'll heal that much quicker if you do.

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He's an *********. Best bet is to cut him out of your life. If he wants to be alone and miserable, that's his business. But, not all older guys are like that. Most are down to earth and are tired of playing games.

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Ex is a Greek who works in Ameica as a professor. He's 36 and I'm 25. He's been living in U.S. for over 12 years and according to him, he's desperate for his country. If he has an equivalent job, he'll move back to Greece immediately. We were together for a year and broke up last month because he went back for vacation again for two months and he said he would never marry me because I'm not a Greek. He said next year he's gonna go back for even longer for 3-4 months. He said only greek woman will understand his situation and go back to his country every year. While, he didn't even have the intention to try with me. He said, I have a lot of experience in life, after a few years of marriage, there will be no love for every couple. So love is not powerful enough to overcome the reality. While I was crying in the US, he's already got two sailing trips in the Greek islands and he met a 31 year old Greek woman on the boat. That's not all! He's also dating a 21 year old and a 24 year old and another woman. So four women! He said with the crisis, all Greek women are desperately looking for marriage overseas because they want to get out of Greece. He said if he finds someone, he'll bring her to the U.S., even if she couldn't find any job, he'll support her. WTF? I feel so used! Feels like he didn't care at all about the past year we spent together! I've never dated older man before? Is this how they think, so practical and cold? Or I met a jerk!? I got all the updates in his life yesterday because I came back from a date and I felt guilty so I called him. We talked two hours, very pleasant talking because somehow we have great connection and we always spend good times together. I told him about the guy I met, and he actually gave me dating advice and taught me to delay sex with him as long as I can go make him want me more. WTF?!! I appreciate his honesty about our past and the real reason for our breakup, however I feel so painful. We did video chat on skype yesterday, and I didn't show him my picture at the beginning. He said why I couldn't see you? I replied "you want to see me?" He said" well if you want". His attitude is always like this! "If you want?!" Later he said he wanted to see me, so I turned on my camera. After we finished talking, I send him an email" you're an a**hole. But the lesson is valuable" he replied "go to sleep now" and one hour later he sent me another email "by the way, I'm not an a**hole". Guys, is he a**hole? I feel so sad now
He is the entire Greek financial crisis in the form of personal issues!

 

He's Greece. You're the creditor. You gave him valuable currency, and he spent it all. Now he wants more, and he's going to get it from other creditors, having tried and failed to get more from you. You want to get paid for what you put into it, but all he's offering you in currency is his worthless dating advice.

 

Time for some serious austerity. Cut him off. Write off your losses. Move along.

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cxycxy35 New Member

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That's genius!!!You made my day!!!!

Now I understand Merkel's look. lol

He is the entire Greek financial crisis in the form of personal issues!

 

He's Greece. You're the creditor. You gave him valuable currency, and he spent it all. Now he wants more, and he's going to get it from other creditors, having tried and failed to get more from you. You want to get paid for what you put into it, but all he's offering you in currency is his worthless dating advice.

 

Time for some serious austerity. Cut him off. Write off your losses. Move along.

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