To declare NC or not

[dowbuild]

So after three weeks of breakup, I have gotten as much closure out of my ex as possible. He has been amazing and really great to talk to but of course nothing changes so I have realized it is time for me to go no contact and let myself heal and move on.

 

When going NC do you let them know or just go for it? And of course of day 1 he finally reaches out with a text initiated by him. Just a general one but thats the luck of the draw right? This has to be the right thing to do.

[Satu]

I think that I would let him know that you are going NC, but you don't have to.

 

 

Remember that no contact is about two things, and two things only:

 

 

1. It protects you from further hurt.

 

2. It allows you to heal without being distracted by the ex.

 

 

Thats all it is, and all it does.

 

 

It's not a must, its an option.

 

 

*No direct contact in either direction.

*No sending or receiving of messages.

*Block any means he might use to contact you.

*No replies to anything that gets through your blocks.

*No indirect contact through third parties.

*De-friend or delete from all social media.

*No monitoring of him on social media.

*No 'little birds' feeding you news.

*Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what he is doing or saying.

 

 

Take care.

[mightycpa]

If he's been patient, and answered your questions, and tried to help you, then yes, I'd say that would be the courteous thing to do. Something nice, but not overly maudlin, maybe like:

 

You know, you've been great over the past few days, it has really helped me understand our breakup. But I think now I've got to do the rest of the work on my own. I'm going to disappear for a while, and when I pop back up you'll know that I finally made it to the other end. Wish me luck, and please don't feel offended that I'm going to ignore you. I'm doing this for me. Take care.

 

Then stick to it.

[aloneinaz]

I also agree to let him know IF he contacts you again. If you go NC and you don't hear from him, there's no need.

 

 

Be short and business like. "Thanks for being kind since the break up but I think what's best for me to heal and move on is to cut contact and I wish ya luck".

 

 

Then the hard part is to stick to it. As it was explained, it's a means to have full separation from him so you can heal and move forward.