PrettyEmily77 Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 You're right about it becoming a 'wave' once it sets in, it's a difficult feeling to kick once it starts, it casts a cloud over you somewhat. I think I'm going to have to say something, maybe not spill my guts as I have on here, but start gently, ask a couple of questions, and then just see what happens. Sensible plan . Good luck
LookAtThisPOst Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 Is this seriously how you expect people in long-term relationships are supposed to operate? Nah, he/she is just probably trolling or being funny or whatever. "None of your business" would apply to someone you're not involved with. You're seriously involved, and I don't fault you for wanting to know what happened in her life up until the point where she met you. 1
LookAtThisPOst Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 I actually had a male friend who was married to his wife for 5 years, never knew her real age...she lied to him about her age. Don't get me wrong, personally I think he's kind of naive for not having known this prior to their marriage. I had a woman I went out with from online dating, reveal to me that she lied about her age then when I asked her to fess up about her real age to me after our 2nd date, she STILL wouldn't tell me...never heard from her again after that. There's just a bad vibe going on there if someone you're dating won't even reveal as SO much as simple as something like that.
Author azzurri82 Posted August 5, 2015 Author Posted August 5, 2015 Nah, he/she is just probably trolling or being funny or whatever. "None of your business" would apply to someone you're not involved with. You're seriously involved, and I don't fault you for wanting to know what happened in her life up until the point where she met you. Yeah, she twice called me by the wrong name, "Patrick", when we'd had a few drinks, once 3 months after we started dating, and another after 5 months. When I enquired further, she just said he was an 'ex' and that was it. I think she may have split up with him around 4 years ago, what I was worried about at the time was feeling transference from one previous boyfriend to me, but she wouldn't really talk about it to me.
Author azzurri82 Posted August 5, 2015 Author Posted August 5, 2015 I actually had a male friend who was married to his wife for 5 years, never knew her real age...she lied to him about her age. Don't get me wrong, personally I think he's kind of naive for not having known this prior to their marriage. I had a woman I went out with from online dating, reveal to me that she lied about her age then when I asked her to fess up about her real age to me after our 2nd date, she STILL wouldn't tell me...never heard from her again after that. There's just a bad vibe going on there if someone you're dating won't even reveal as SO much as simple as something like that. The situation is nowhere near that bad, but I know what you mean about the 'vibe', it's like something just doesn't sit right with you and you don't feel right until you get to the bottom of it, even if the bottom of it is nothing out of the ordinary.
wb1988 Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 I think you are overthinking it. It's likely that she is sharing nothing because there is nothing to share. There are lots of girls are more of the homebody type and literally have nothing to talk about when it comes to their past because there just wasn't much to it.
Author azzurri82 Posted August 5, 2015 Author Posted August 5, 2015 I think you are overthinking it. It's likely that she is sharing nothing because there is nothing to share. There are lots of girls are more of the homebody type and literally have nothing to talk about when it comes to their past because there just wasn't much to it. She's a bit of a contradiction in many ways, I don't think she is the 'homebody' type to be honest.
guest569 Posted August 6, 2015 Posted August 6, 2015 Me neither. I dunno why she wont talk about basic, simple,subjects of her past like her studies, family etc. it would be bothering me because i a curious to know about the person and a persons history is a big part of who they are unless maybe its trauma or something and she is blocking it out, i dont get it.
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