Is a good women ever truly single and ready to mingle? I think its all a lie!

[dandyrandy]

Reads more like a self-fulfilling prophecy, sprinkled with a bit of self-justification to explain how you're such a stellar guy

 

 

who's still single.

 

 

It reads as the truth and what is wrong with being single?

[dandyrandy]

As temping as it is (I know), it is dangerous and self-defeating to think the way you do. Stay positive and hopeful.

 

Interesting... and how so is it dangerous thinking exactly?

[Popsicle]

Interesting... and how so is it dangerous thinking exactly?

 

You shoot yourself in the foot. You exit the game and a game exited is one you can't possibly win at.

 

By the way, I am fully single and a good woman, but too old for you.

[mrldii]

It reads as the truth and what is wrong with being single?

 

Well, if I remember correctly, according to you what's wrong with being single is that it means one is not "a good [person]" and that "they are crazy and no one wants them."

 

 

Or, does that only apply to women and the presence of a penis on an individual exempts one from such a studied and scholarly assessment?

 

 

[Phoe]

Haha, I spent most of my adult life single. TRULY single. Not the "FWB" or "casually seeing" or "cuddle buddies" whatever the heck that some folks assume every single woman has. Not dating. Not "talking to" someone. Totally celibate.

 

I always couldn't help but be so astounded at the "if she's single, then there must be something wrong with her" idea. Why do so many people subscribe to automatically wanting what other people want? Why don't more people think for themselves?

 

I could never understand when people used to tell me that I might have better luck if I put a ring on my finger. Geez!

[carhill]

I am 33 years old and I have been all over the world.

Experiencing other cultures helps one gain perspective on the diversity of the world

In my life I have been on over 100 dates with different women.

Pretty good track record. Women must find you attractive if they go out on dates with you.

I have noticed something about all the women I have dated. They all have verifying degrees of being single. It should be black and white right?? I mean you are either single or your not right??

IME, it's about as black and white as you, me or any other guy being verifiably single. We won't ever know, except for ourselves, because we can't read minds.

It always seems that the good women that claim to be single mostly have some kind of relationship going that is in varying degrees of love and interest.

Pretty normal IME. They have good relationships skills and can accept male interest if the mood strikes them.

If a good women is in a full blown relationship with a man that is good to her than of course she is not single.

Depends on the observer but, yeah, I tend to agree. Some guys, and watch out of the competition, consider the only unavailable women to be married and there's a smaller subset for whom anything goes.

But the good women that have a lazy lover, broke guy, abusive guy,just a friend guy, drug user guy, criminal guy,or crazy guy ect ect.. than they seem to be single.

Depends. They may also like to collect stuff they aren't getting at home from other men and have the home man for whatever he provides them with. Everyone is different. I call this subset 'flexible.

Also I have noticed that the women that are truly single, as in the have nobody in there lives and no love interest, are usually the one that I have to run away as fast as I can from. These women are the worst! Mostly it seems because they are crazy and no one wants them.

Sorry to read that. So far, I can't honestly share any dating experiences which would support that perspective.

Have you experienced the same thing??

In my demographic, it's not so much the details but rather the lack of unmarried, as opposed to being single or in a relationship, women being available. I was used to competing for the single and LTR ladies but the true competitors worked the whole range of potentials and would snatch up the most desirable women while they were still married but on a marital fumble of some sort. Again, not an indictment but simply numbers with a surplus of men competing for the women to mate with.

 

Currently, I know of two women who I'm sure are single because I've known them for years and interact with them regularly. One is my best friend's sister who's terminally ill with cancer. The other is a school teacher, retired, who got divorced about 15 years ago and is quite happy in her 60's to be active in her church and fitness pursuits and has no interest in men. All the rest are married or in LTR's, including my exW. They're generally never truly single, rather available until a good match comes along and they move on to the next iteration.

 

Since you've traveled the world you know things vary markedly from culture to culture and place to place. When immersed in cultures or locations where women were in excess or men didn't match up well with the women's desires and I did, it was like shooting fish in a barrel. At home, a blood bath of constantly pulling back a mutilated stump. Anymore, after divorce, I don't bother in my historical demographic. It's simply not worth my time and, being middle-aged, time is increasingly important as there isn't a lot of it left. Another man with better success in life might see things differently and, like the women, move from iteration to iteration without thought nor care. We're all different. Good luck in your pursuits.