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Is a good women ever truly single and ready to mingle? I think its all a lie!

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dandyrandy Established Member

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I am 33 years old and I have been all over the world. In my life I have been on over 100 dates with different women. I have noticed something about all the women I have dated. They all have verifying degrees of being single. It should be black and white right?? I mean you are either single or your not right?? It always seems that the good women that claim to be single mostly have some kind of relationship going that is in varying degrees of love and interest. If a good women is in a full blown relationship with a man that is good to her than of course she is not single. But the good women that have a lazy lover, broke guy, abusive guy,just a friend guy, drug user guy, criminal guy,or crazy guy ect ect.. than they seem to be single. Also I have noticed that the women that are truly single, as in the have nobody in there lives and no love interest, are usually the one that I have to run away as fast as I can from. These women are the worst! Mostly it seems because they are crazy and no one wants them. Have you experienced the same thing??

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Back when I was single if I was out "on the prowl" I was fully available with nobody waiting in the wings for me. Even when I tried OLD & was multi-dating by the time I went on my 3rd date with DH, I had dropped everybody else even though I was not discussing the issue with DH.

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Back when I was single if I was out "on the prowl" I was fully available with nobody waiting in the wings for me. Even when I tried OLD & was multi-dating by the time I went on my 3rd date with DH, I had dropped everybody else even though I was not discussing the issue with DH.

 

Are you female or male? Also why did you do that?

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I'm female & I dropped the other two guys because they weren't as interesting to me as DH. One was still clearly hung up on his EX. The other just didn't get my motor going the way DH did. It was pure chemistry. I'm not a game player. I wasn't going to "keep my options open" as some sort of emotional leverage. I also figured that at some point I'd want to talk to him about exclusivity so it was in my best interests to come into that discussion unencumbered.

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HereNorThere Established Member

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With as many jerk guys out there as there are out there, there are plenty of single women. Just look around at this forum and you'll notice how many women get burned and have to start over at square one.

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This reminds me of something I saw when browsing through the forums. You might find the discussion interesting. :)

 

Just a sidebar comment for one of the things I am always on my soapbox about on these forums.

 

 

This situation is exactly why I always tell young, single men to make their best move and best offer if there is some gal they have the sweets for even if she supposedly has a BF.

 

 

There are a lot of gals like this that are lonely, frustrated and dissatisfied with their supposed "BF" but are too shiftless and too afraid to leave the security of a relationship on their own.

 

 

If some single guy that she found attractive and found suitable that was of an appropriate age for her came along and made her a valid offer, she would have her bag packed and would be out the door in a New York minute and damn her all to hell if she didn't.

 

 

I am not saying that guys should go out and poach married women with minor children and mortgages and car payments for a piece of poontang; I am not saying that at all.

 

 

What I am saying is that if a single guy has a sincere interest in a single gal that has a BF to make her his best offer anyway. At that point it is up to her whether she accepts the offer or not.

 

 

There are lots of women just ripe for the pick'ns just like the OP here and if the right one comes along and makes the right offer she may just jump on it.

 

I agree.

 

I do not advocate that single men looking for a lay or out to prove a point, go and poach other men's gfs for the night, or that a single men should intrude into marriages and long term relationships with mortgages, businesses and kids. I am not advocating cheating either.

 

But if a man really wants a woman and sees her as a long term prospect for him, then the fact she has a bf should not dissuade him from trying to persuade her to leave said bf. She may tell him to get lost or she may disappear into the sunset with him, it is a risky strategy, but even if it doesn't work out, at least he tried.

 

Life is far too short to wait around for years until she is "free".

All's fair in love and war, as they say.

 

You worded it more concisely and clearly but that is exactly what I was trying to say.

 

Attractive women are never completely free and single. They are always dating someone or involved with someone to one degree or another, but not always happy or satisfied with that person(s). Many will still consider a valid offer even though they supposedly have a BF.

 

Someone is single and on the market until they are not.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/marriage-life-partnerships/infidelity/537009-affair-improving-relationship-dynamic-updated-4.html

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Nope. I've been single and looking for the last five years. No-one on the side, no crazy in the wings. I just met someone who ticked all my boxes and to be honest I should be running away from this dude because he probably has a shrine dedicated to me <right now>. We've had one coffee date, one real date where I sent him home and a second date where he didn't leave until 36 hours later. You can't tar us all with the same brush.

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I agree that most women, pretty and ugly, usually have a options for sex. OP even said that she'd just pick a guy friend and do the deed. However, I just don't think it would be fulfilling for her.

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I'm confused, OP. Is this your public declaration that:

 

1. you will no longer be dating [women];

 

2. you will only be dating married women in the hopes of busting up their marriages, since "good women" are always already in relationships; or

 

3. you realize you will forevermore be settling for second-best/damaged goods and you are A-OK with that *reality*?

 

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Hmm.. very interesting indeed! I see that I am not alone on how I feel about dating a good women.

 

It does play to the idea that good women with bad men are still considered single until married. However I don't agree that the truly single women should be avoided. Some are clingy (single or not) and some are perfectly comfortable in their own skins and on their own. Gotta judge each situation as itself :)

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I'm confused, OP. Is this your public declaration that:

 

1. you will no longer be dating [women];

 

2. you will only be dating married women in the hopes of busting up their marriages, since "good women" are always already in relationships; or

 

3. you realize you will forevermore be settling for second-best/damaged goods and you are A-OK with that *reality*?

 

:confused:

 

Nothing of the sort.. I am asking if anyone has noticed similar dating experiences.

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No, "good women" and also bad women, as well as all kinds of men have times of being single in their lives. You have somehow got it wrong inspite of being 33 and well traveled and dating 100 women!! :):) My advise to you is to just dump this silly notion and start with a clean slate if you are actually interested in finding a "good woman" to have your own relationship with, or else just carry on!!

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It does play to the idea that good women with bad men are still considered single until married. However I don't agree that the truly single women should be avoided. Some are clingy (single or not) and some are perfectly comfortable in their own skins and on their own. Gotta judge each situation as itself :)

 

Out of hundreds of dates with women the only women I noticed that were worth the effort were not truly 100% single.

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Out of hundreds of dates with women the only women I noticed that were worth the effort were not truly 100% single.
Maybe they were just telling you that to kind of let you down easy cause they didn't want to go out with you?? :(:(
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I am not "good" I am exceptional... and single... very single...

 

Nothing untoward apart from the occasional bouts of PMT. Baggage all dealt with no crazy lady episodes from me...

 

Perhaps that is where I am going wrong... I should be bat sh*t crazy and then they will come flocking! :lmao:

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It does play to the idea that good women with bad men are still considered single until married. However I don't agree that the truly single women should be avoided. Some are clingy (single or not) and some are perfectly comfortable in their own skins and on their own. Gotta judge each situation as itself :)

 

 

Have never found a women truly single that had everything going for her! Maybe I am looking in the wrong places.. Maybe the truly single good women are not advertising to anyone that they are truly single. Which ever case it may be I have never found a truly single good women. If they claimed to be they were lying about it which than would make them no good women.

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It is hard to find a genuinely good woman that is single but it is possible. You just have to get lucky. Just like with women say about men most of the good ones are taken but not all.

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It obviously depends on the circumstances. An attractive 20 something woman on a campus or with an active social life is always going to be popular with men.

 

Once older, it may not always be so clear cut. She may not have the same circle to socialize with, her work may be isolating, she may just not be meeting many available or suitable men.

 

Past her twenties, I guess many good women are sitting at home with no partner and no-one on the horizon either.

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Have never found a women truly single that had everything going for her! Maybe I am looking in the wrong places.. Maybe the truly single good women are not advertising to anyone that they are truly single. Which ever case it may be I have never found a truly single good women. If they claimed to be they were lying about it which than would make them no good women.

 

I have not met ANYONE that has had everything good going for them all at once. :rolleyes:

 

I think instead of trying to categorize/evaluate these women you meet, try simply enjoying spending time getting to know them. Are you trying to build a relationship, or interview them for a job position? If you are attracted and end up with feelings for her, obviously on some level you consider her "good."

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Have never found a women truly single that had everything going for her! Maybe I am looking in the wrong places.. Maybe the truly single good women are not advertising to anyone that they are truly single. Which ever case it may be I have never found a truly single good women. If they claimed to be they were lying about it which than would make them no good women.

 

Reads more like a self-fulfilling prophecy, sprinkled with a bit of self-justification to explain how you're such a stellar guy

 

 

who's still single.

 

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Reads more like a self-fulfilling prophecy, sprinkled with a bit of self-justification to explain how you're such a stellar guy

 

 

who's still single.

 

:cool:

Meanwhile all the "good" single ladies are going on dates and ending up paired up with guys ... who they like.
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Maybe they were just telling you that to kind of let you down easy cause they didn't want to go out with you?? :(:(

 

Who said anything about those women not going out with me?

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It is hard to find a genuinely good woman that is single but it is possible. You just have to get lucky. Just like with women say about men most of the good ones are taken but not all.

 

This is true

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As temping as it is (I know), it is dangerous and self-defeating to think the way you do. Stay positive and hopeful.

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