LoveRefreshed Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 Heyo Ladies and Gents... I don't have a whole lot of luck on OLD.. generally I send out about 1-2 messages a day because frankly, I'm not photogenic. I hate every pic I see of myself and I just generally do better in person. I sent a message to a very attractive girl whose profile was a very well written profile in sorts. She has a vocabulary and way of thought expressed in her profile that I totally identify with. The thing is, she's really ****ing attractive. I'm going to meet her next week for a drink or two. I am actually feeling kind of ****ing nervous. I don't get nervous for meeting people or what not. I'm letting the thought of it get to me. I am afraid I'm not going to stay cool and be the witty charming bastard I normally am. Any tips? Any first date tips for OKC style meeting?
Candygirljane Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 Haha you are funny, no rules for OKC or OLD. Just take it easy and pay her the check bill. It's better to stop saying fu..ing in person and try not to be nervous. Good luck
Author LoveRefreshed Posted August 4, 2015 Author Posted August 4, 2015 haha, I'll try! :D She mentioned to me that she swears a lot in a message. I'm just super excited. Usually I'm all 'meh' and the girls love me for it. Every time I let myself get stoked, I usually end up alone and having to stro... wait. what.
PogoStick Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 Tell yourself that she's going to be really nervous to meet you because you are so FKING awesome! It's ok, feel sorry for her. She can't help it. Another option is to be straight forward, and a bit of self-hypnosis. Tell yourself you'll be super nervous for 3 minutes, 5 minutes, (you choose what feels right) and then after that you'll be the coolest cat in the room. Then you don't have to fight it which makes things even worse. You acknowledge it, accept it, and discharge it. Even tell her, the first moments you meet: Hey I'm not used to meeting people like this from online dating. I'm super nervous because the whole process feels a little weird and we hardly know anything about each other. But you can watch the time and in 5 minutes I'll be totally fine. How do you feel, do you get nervous at all meeting like this? She might very well feel the same and admitting it could help both of you. BTW the above is a self-hypnosis people will use for public speaking to a large crowd. They'll tell the crowd how nervous they are but that it will disappear quickly. It can work amazingly well.
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