Tek Nickel Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 So I kind of had to put off dating for about 7 years now because I was changing careers and had to study my butt off nightly. So that left zero time to devote to dating or pursuing a relationship. It sucked, but now I have a new career and I decided to go back at it. Its not going so well. I guess I could use some insight on what women want these days to be honest. I've been hitting the gym hard because there is just no getting around being physically attractive. I've lost about 35 pounds in the last 2 months, but I am not quite there yet. I still have a little bit left to work on my midsection to be able to go shirtless. As far as personality goes, I think I have a stellar one. I'm smart, responsible, have manners, not a doormat, not a jerk, wide spectrum of humor, have good friends, like to be active, and have a solid career with future plans of starting a business, but none of that seems to really matter. I have no desire to be a player and try to juggle a phone full of contacts. i don't go to bars and nightclubs because I don't drink or I turn into a walking felony waiting to happen. So where does a guy go to meet women in the 35-45 range besides a bar? What is dating like at this age level because it is sure a different game than it was in my 20's. To break it down I suppose I have an average face, but will eventually have a killer body. I can't ignore the fact that i have relatively high standards for appearance because I would just be lying to someone if I settled for less. I also have similar standards for personality because I function at a high intelligence level and would need someone that understood me enough to offer insight and add to the equation. Some think its being shallow, I think it is just being honest and saving any future conflict for both parties involved. So any tips on what the standards are these days would be appreciated. Or general forum abuse is ok as well since it provides entertainment value.
Toodaloo Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 If you try on line dating I can tell you now that like pretty much everyone you will grow tired of it. Even those who are successful get fed up. So if you go down that route make sure that you plan breaks in. Personally I have been trying on line purely because I do not tend to meet single males of my age in day to day life... Funnily enough I don't seem to meet that many on line either!!! I think your best bet is to get used to talking to women and asking them out in cold approaches. You clearly care about your health so why not take a look around the gym sometimes. Go for a swim, go out to tennis clubs etc... Practice talking and getting to know women then ask them out. You can ask when you are doing your grocery shopping. You can talk to them when you are filling up your car at the petrol station... Try to push your boundaries a bit more and speak to more women just in general. Most women in the 35-45 age bracket do not hang at clubs etc any more. They go and get involved with other activities instead. Also never assume anything when you meet a woman. Always talk to her and ask questions. A simple way to find out if those kids she is with is to make comment that she can correct you on or confirm. A simple way to find out if she is married or not is to use the same tactic. "oh I bet your husband will enjoy that wine" can lead you into "actually I am single, its for friends who are coming round" and you can take it from there. I have men approaching all the time but they never get around to asking the right questions... So ask!!!
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