HereNorThere Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 I agree. In that case then she should be leveraging her power as an attractive female and taking advantage of all the messages she will receive through OLD (and yes this is something men will never experience). The laws of probability will ensure there is bound to be someone suitable in there, no harm in trying! I missed the part about where it was confirmed she is attractive.
Toodaloo Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 Why would she need to waste her time doing that when she could spend 10 minutes setting up a match.com profile and have 500 prospective guys at her finger tips. Admittedly, this is not the same for men, but women have it easy when it comes to this. No they don't. Was talking to the chap I had a date with on Saturday. both he and his sister joined the same site at the same time. He averages 1 date a week she has had no interest at all... This whole "thing" that men have it better or women have is better is false. I am no dog. My profile is good. I don't get that much interest when I log on... Apart from married men and those who just want sex and nothing more... they don't even want to know your name... 1
kendahke Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 (edited) But we take blows to our self-esteem from serious relationships, as well. What if our nature inclines us to look for loving, caring partners? Wouldn't self-discipline be practicing sexual freedom? I wasn't discussing that in this thread. Edited August 4, 2015 by kendahke
Targetlock Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 I know the feeling, single and sexless for almost a year, but as well as the sex i want the affection and intimacy that comes with it. Some of us are mentally built for casual encounters, some aren't it seems to me. Im not as i am an affectionate guy and would probably just get attached and feel worse. So in my opinion its worth holding out until you can get the real deal, be much better too until then rely on good ol' self maintenance. 1
kendahke Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 Was talking to the chap I had a date with on Saturday. both he and his sister joined the same site at the same time. He averages 1 date a week she has had no interest at all... This whole "thing" that men have it better or women have is better is false. I am no dog. My profile is good. I don't get that much interest when I log on... Apart from married men and those who just want sex and nothing more... they don't even want to know your name... This is my experience, too. The so called "attention" that I do get is from catfish. I put all correspondences and profiles through a google search and 95% of the time, they're catfish. The others are out of my preferences, to which I and everyone breathing is entitled.
Shining One Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 This whole "thing" that men have it better or women have is better is false.I've found this to be very situational. Location is a factor as well. My cousin (female and one year younger than me) joined Match two years after me. She received over 100 messages in the first week. Indian women are more desirable than Indian men here. Thus, in this situation, "women have it better" is true. OP, if you know casual sex won't end well for you, don't do it. Casual sex does wonders for me, so I choose to partake when single.
HereNorThere Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 (edited) No they don't. Was talking to the chap I had a date with on Saturday. both he and his sister joined the same site at the same time. He averages 1 date a week she has had no interest at all... This whole "thing" that men have it better or women have is better is false. I am no dog. My profile is good. I don't get that much interest when I log on... Apart from married men and those who just want sex and nothing more... they don't even want to know your name... I think this may be location based as well, but where I live, most attractive females receive hundreds of messages from real, attractive, decent guys. I lived with 4 girls and was amazed at the amount of letters, attention, dates, etc. that came their way. I sometimes forget not everyone lives in a vibrant city. To be completely honest, it really broke my spirit seeing how many guys were competing for these girls. Ugh, shameless, white knight bastards. Edited August 4, 2015 by HereNorThere
TouchedByViolet Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 Random sex is probably a bad idea. A better option may be to choose a guy you like enough to get physically intimate with but not enough to have a long term relationship. Find a guy who you can see yourself just having fun with. Random selection seems too high risk.
Learningtowalkagain Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 I have a female friend who I always joked around with. Not really my type but she isn't hideous looking. It had been about 6 months since I had sex. We were drunk one night, she offered, I obliged. We banged for two weeks. I wound up cutting it off. We're still friends.
allymac Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 I have a friend who has casual sex and she never seems to feel bad about it because she doesn't want a relationship. But I have had casual sex out of loneliness and it just made me feel more lonely. There was a part of me that felt worthless because the guy didn't care about me even though I didn't deeply care about him either. I think it is just hard as a woman to go again what society has taught us - that you don't want to be seen as easy etc. I couldn't help judging my self which just increased my insecurities and loneliness. On top of that I haven't found casual sex physically satisfying! It is so much better when someone knows and cares about you. You can take care of yourself better than some random dude lol.
ThisisIt606 Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 Do what makes you feel comfortable. If you do choose to have "random sex" get to know the guy a bit a least so you won't feel scared/worried being alone with him. Always use protection.
kilgore Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 Not to sound defensive but I have plenty going on. Men seems to be the one thing missing lol I don't think it seems like you don't have stuff going on. everyone gets lonely at points
Versacehottie Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 Hmmm, if I may>>> throughout the time reading (and enjoying!) your posts, OP, it doesn't strike me as your personality to really be ok with this. Even within this thread, if I read between the lines of what you have said, it sounds like you want a relationship. So why not work really hard on finding one? I don't think you will find what you are truly looking for in casual sex. Some people do of course. But I do think it's harder for a woman to truly be ok with this. Plus then your oxy will start bonding etc. So if you don't find a relationship type guy but have casual sex with the guy you do find, your body might trick you into thinking you actually have feelings for him.
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