Author Throldur Posted August 4, 2015 Author Posted August 4, 2015 I guess the subject has turned to whether or not I should respond to this or not.. I don't think I should.. as, it changes nothing, and the underlying message is clear. Though, some think I should and if I would I'd probably just say what someone else suggested.. "No worries, I had a good time and you're a great girl. Best of luck with everything." In the end, sending a message at all doesn't do anything for me and it doesn't change her mind. That's why I'm more on the side of not saying anything. Also Kendahke: I wasn't insinuating I was the man of her dreams. I was merely remarking that -if- I was, I wouldn't have been getting a line like that. Any time is the right time to be dating someone if it is someone they feel strongly about.
kendahke Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 Also Kendahke: I wasn't insinuating I was the man of her dreams. I was merely remarking that -if- I was, I wouldn't have been getting a line like that. Any time is the right time to be dating someone if it is someone they feel strongly about. I wasn't insinuating that you were. You said: If you met the guy/girl of your dreams, regardless of any situation, you would find a way to make it work. I think it goes without saying that if one meets the person of their dreams, that of course they're going to pull out all of the stops to make it work. However, if that person doesn't believe you are the person of their dreams, then it's not the right time for them, you aren't the right person for them and it's not going to happen, however right you may feel the time and the person is for you.
GravityMan Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 There is really no point to analyze rejection or argue someone into liking you. If someone is not interested in dating in general or dating you then it means just that, it is just information. Maybe they come up with a white lie, maybe they are telling the truth, either way it doesn't matter. Now you know and you can move along with other options. Agreed...succinctly put. OP, you are overthinking dating and social interactions in general. And therefore you are being your own worst enemy. You gotta learn that it's often best to just maintain a simple mentality, take things in stride, let matters drop and just move on with your life...both physically and mentally. Don't try to understand every itty bitty thing.
Author Throldur Posted August 4, 2015 Author Posted August 4, 2015 Agreed...succinctly put. OP, you are overthinking dating and social interactions in general. And therefore you are being your own worst enemy. You gotta learn that it's often best to just maintain a simple mentality, take things in stride, let matters drop and just move on with your life...both physically and mentally. Don't try to understand every itty bitty thing. Well, I am getting fed up. Won't argue with that. I'm back on the dating market when I already had the girl I thought I was gonna marry. Won't get back into that whole story, but, I'm single again and it took me awhile to get to the point where I'd start dating again. Since then, I've actually met some great girls, when I didn't think that I would. Problem is, something stupid or flakey happens with each one of them. I am trying to analyze things because I'm trying to figure out why I can't get beyond either a one night stand or a first date with these girls when we have a lot in common, we have great conversations, we laugh, flirt, kiss etc. With these last two leads turning up nothing. I'm stepping away from the dating game again. It's too frustrating and blowing it with quality women certainly isn't making me enjoy my current life situation.
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