Riptide91 Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 Hey all, Up until now I have only participated in the Breaks Ups section of the site a few months ago when my girlfriend of 7 years left me. Since that time, last October, I have been working on myself and learning to love myself again. I now feel ready to date and look for a new girlfriend and I actually met someone who I would like to date. We met through mutual friends and we've hung out once at a concert, but I never got the chance to get her number. The other day she added me on a social media site so I took the opportunity to ask her out. She said whenever I wanted to we could. My question is pretty much this: How can I tell if she's actually interested and not just being nice? I have doubts but I'm thinking this might be part of the fear of getting let down again. Should I message her to get her phone number and text her or is that too direct? I feel so dumb asking things like this as I've never had a problem talking or dating with women but I had a girlfriend so long I feel as though I've forgot how. Any advice or comments are appreciated! Thanks LS!
mystikmind2005 Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 I don't have all the answers how to succeed in dating and life, but I do know, it is important to believe in yourself, love and the really hard one but very important belief is to believe your date likes you. if you believe that, it gives you confidence and comes out in your attitude and your 'vibe' and women are very attracted to this. So believe these things, it is far better to believe and be surprised by failure than it is to live in fear of failure. Fear kills dreams, fear kills hope, fear will paralyze you and hold you back from doing the things you know you are capable of doing. The human spirit is powerful, it is hard to kill the human spirit. And the real challenge of personal growth comes when you get knocked down. Becoming stronger and better for it, to live life with passion, with drive, the last chapter of your life has not been written yet, so live your dreams!
Mrin Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 Truth #1: if she was being nice she would have said "I'm pretty busy but let me know and I'll see if I am free" Truth #2: a man courting a woman isn't afraid to ask for her phone number. That is not forward. That is expected. Truth #3: if she keeps saying yes to subsequent dates then she is interested. All that being said - she gave you a carte blanche with the "whenever you want to" comment. So you need to move on that or you look like a jerk. Ask her out in the next day or two. And have fun. Above all have fun.
Author Riptide91 Posted August 4, 2015 Author Posted August 4, 2015 This is all good advice. Thank you, I messaged her asking for her number so that we can figure out when would work best. No reply yet but the more I think about it she must have some interest or she could have said she was busy or not dating right now, etc. What is too heavy for a first date? I'm on the fence whether dinner is the right choice or if something more fun and light would be better? Of course I'm not asking for a step by step guide to dating, I just like the hear others opinions especially since I haven't done this is so long haha, thanks again!
Mrin Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 Fun and light and short are the usual choices. Like a happy hour. If it goes well you can extend into dinner. 1
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