sportygirl89 Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 We hung out Saturday. I always feel a spark between us (we have been friends before but this was an actual date). He had been out hiking all day. When he got back to his place he texted me saying he had fun. I didn't text him at all Sunday. I know guys like their space. I have a volunteer organization I'm trying to join and I did let him know (On Monday) I would not be joining it yet due to they moved the date (it is ultimately where we met). How many days would you give a guy a chance before you say onto the next?
d0nnivain Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 I don't understand the Q. Are you asking how many days I would wait to hear back from some guy I just started dating before I would conclude he's not interested? If so my time frames are a lot longer than most. I'd give him a week. Yes a whole week. If I hadn't heard anything but I liked him, I'd reach out & ask him to join me on a date I planned & intended to pay for. If that didn't get a favorable response, then I'd be done.
newmoon Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 i think every woman is different on this. i am willing to give exactly 7 days from the first date. if i haven't heard from him in any form in that time frame, i'm 1,000% done and delete/block his number. i don't have time for nonsense. the text he sent was a good sign... i'd at least give him a week before you write him off
Author sportygirl89 Posted August 4, 2015 Author Posted August 4, 2015 Yes to how many days. It has been a while since I've dated. I'm trying to be understanding and not be that girl. Good idea about the 7 days. I'll completely go off the grid for him until he acknowledges it. I've been single for two years since my ex ended things on bad terms. He is the newest employee at his firm and they just started a new project. So I'm trying my best to be understanding. He is about 10 years older and I'm in mid 20s. Oh yeah this is long distance or would be.
d0nnivain Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 What do you mean go off the grid? We're not advocating game playing. All we're saying is that we give people time. Don't panic because he doesn't respond instantaneously.
Author sportygirl89 Posted August 4, 2015 Author Posted August 4, 2015 (edited) I just hate not knowing anything. He did tell me he'd be back in late August and wanted to hang out with me again then. I just hate the not knowing when I'll hear from him again...or I'll get the text oh hey I'm back in town text....I've just have had bad luck with guys so far. Thought my ex and I would end up together in the future so I'm quick to end things before things get started. Edited August 4, 2015 by sportygirl89
d0nnivain Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 Not knowing is maddening but patience is a virtue. Breathe. Go about your life. See what happens. 1
Author sportygirl89 Posted August 4, 2015 Author Posted August 4, 2015 Yeah we kissed and it felt so passionate and I did feel a spark (I always do with him) I go to the beach in a few days and should help. I'm just so nervous. It has been over a year since I kissed anyone (and he does know that).
Toodaloo Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 He is away. You know when he will be back. If he hasn't contacted you by the end of the month then shrug and walk on. If the guy is around he gets a few days depending on frequency of texts/ phone calls etc. If he is away then I wait until he is back. Just go and live your life. Sod worrying about men and stressing over them. There are far more interesting things to agonise over.
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