Dolce15 Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 Hello, I'm hoping to just get some insight or maybe hear from others that have had a similar experience. I started talking to someone 2 months ago from a dating site, for the last two months we were talking or on Skype for at least 2-3 hours a day. We both were looking for a serious relationship leading to marriage. I'm 29, he's 37 and we live in separate states. We had many things in common, similar values, same religion, same frustrations when it comes to the dating scene nowadays. Anyway we talked about meeting and he said he could come to me but I decided to go there since I haven't been before (DC area). Everything was amazing, I had my own hotel (which he paid for) so there was no sex as we had talked about waiting til marriage, there was some making out and touchy feely towards the end of the trip but I stopped it from going further. He introduced me to his cousins family and one of his friends, he told me he never felt such strong feelings for someone so fast, was constantly taking pictures of me, of us together, on the way to the airport he said he was going to miss me and we talked about when he would come visit me. I come home and everything changed, we barely spoke or texted, he said he was busy with work and catching up from taking time off which I totally get, however one night he went out with friends and I didn't hear from him for over 9 hours. He had gone out with friends the last 2 months we had been talking and would always just text to see what I was up to or call me on his way home. The first few days he would say he was missing me so much, that he was driving on a road we drove on together and I wasn't there, etc. Then he calls me Saturday and says that during the trip he felt something major was missing from our chemistry and since we're both looking for marriage it wouldn't work. I asked him what was missing and he said he didn't know, it could be I didn't speak his native language. Needless to say I was shocked and still am. I don't understand it and how someone can go from saying they miss you so much or introducing you as their GF and talking about visiting in a few weeks to 'there was something missing in the chemistry.' Why do people have to be so flakey nowadays?
Chief Wiggum Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 (edited) My only guess is that he has something (or someone) else going on in his life -- which you don't know about -- for him to suddenly turn. Remember, it's only been two months since you began talking. And 90% of those two months have been spent online only. You've met just the once. There's so many things you just aren't aware of this man. He may be a decent guy with some genuine problems, or, you know, the other obvious thing. Either that, or he felt no connection when he met you in person. Us guys can be pretty deceiving and ruthless like that. Edited August 3, 2015 by Chief Wiggum
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