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2 years later and it still bothers me


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She probably owes you a thank you as you made her question her own behavior.

 

I was moving too slow. She told me that she wanted to pursue a friendship with me. I played along for a few months and then realized it wasn't working and just stopped talking to her. She came back a couple months later saying that she "just wanted to be on good terms" and I pretty much lost my sh*t and told her to eff off in the most immature way possible. I didn't take shots directly at her but I said some crazy things that I definitely regret.

 

The one thing that really drove me off the wall was the fact that she texted me "You act like you're not interested" right before she dumped me. I translated that into "try harder, dude, escalate things" but apparently what it really meant was "go away." And then on top of that she tried to friend zone me. Really didn't sit well with me. She was far from innocent.

 

She shouldn't have offered friendship knowing I wanted more. It was disrespectful and rude.....Now I just wish I could make myself believe that and get over it but she always comes back into my thoughts. Since then, I've broken up with much better girls than her but this girl continues to haunt my thoughts for some reason.

 

I think part of the problem is that I'm still friends with the girl who introduced us. I really value the friendship we have, but every time I talk to her and can't help but think about the awful experience.

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And chances are that if all of those other things aren't making you happy, she isn't going to either. It sounds to me like you need to speak with a professional about your depression.

 

I've gone to therapy sessions before. They're nice but I wouldn't say they're worth the money. At the end of the day it's up to me and I know I can do it..it's just going to take some time. Also, I miss Texas and I REALLY hate Florida so that's contributing to it. Next month I'll get to move to Michigan which should. I can visit some friends and family (I'm from Ohio) and really start looking for new jobs.

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