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So to be brief 8 days ago a broke up woth my 10 month girl , I grew to love her but when I met her she was splitting up woth her 12 year on off bf , she is 10 years older than me and is very centimental , she had a couple episodes where she freaked out and we had space and she always came back to me ok , she said at the start when I met her she just wanted to be single and didn't want to be in a relationship anymore but I perused and didn't really let it happen , her ex came back from abroad after levering her for many months and she met him which made her spin out and confused things , a few months later she broke up woth me and said she still wanted to be single but has strong feelings for her ex and she needed to sort her head out and wanted to be single ,I was totaly cool with it and she wanted to be friends and said us meeting was such bad timing and maybe one if she can sort her life out it could work ,it's been 8 days and I'm so gutted ,I told her I didnt want to be friends and my door is open if she changes her mind , the last words I said after I picked my stuff uo was I don't want to hear from you unless you want more , and I hope I do hear from you , she said she was never able to give 100% to us because of these hang ups . I really want to speak to her but know it's wrong and I feel like I'm never going to hear from her again ,by the way her ex is desperate to get back woth her we had a lovly time when her head was right but it could quickly slip back and she would go cold and flaky so I would always back off and she would be ok

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I hate to tell you this but you were a rebound for her, a place filler to fill up the empty void left by her EX's departure. After 12 years it was too soon for her to get into a relationship with you especially if she was the dumpee. It's likely they will get back together.

 

 

Take some time to heal. Then move forward with your own life. Hopefully your next relationship will be less tumultuous than this one was. When they break up & come back & ask for space, things are bad. Remember that.

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Well she broke up with him and was always adimant she didnt want him back , i even sugested once that we break up and she go back to him and she really didnt want to , when he came back we broke up after the first time they met because it hit her really hard, she went there just for a catch up thinking she would be fine, after 1 week she came back to me , she said her plan was she was going to stay single but missed me ,Yeah I keep telling myself this but hang on to hope which is stupid , I just worry I was being a bit selfish saying I don't want to hear from you unless you want more than friendship ,I actualy said to her I felt like her rebound and she was like noo way , ha I think I was

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Well she broke up with him and was always adimant she didnt want him back , i even sugested once that we break up and she go back to him and she really didnt want to , when he came back we broke up after the first time they met because it hit her really hard, she went there just for a catch up thinking she would be fine, after 1 week she came back to me , she said her plan was she was going to stay single but missed me ,Yeah I keep telling myself this but hang on to hope which is stupid , I just worry I was being a bit selfish saying I don't want to hear from you unless you want more than friendship ,I actualy said to her I felt like her rebound and she was like noo way , ha I think I was

 

 

 

I agree. You're rebound guy. Don't you think the timing was odd that AS SOON as he was back in the country, you're kicked to the curb?

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Well he was back 4 months ,but Yeah think I already know this ..... like I said it that stupid bit of hope I can't seem to let go of

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