Angel29 Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 I went on a date with a guy off a dating website yesterday. I felt some attraction to him but have a preferred type but I have some doubts. He has had 2 very long term relationships and never married the women. He was nice but talked about himself a lot and when he asked me something he made sure the conversation got back to him again quite quickly. He apologised later saying he had spoke a lot. I found it hard to get a word in. What really annoyed me later is as we left the venue I opened the door and he walked straight through and he didn't say thanks or open the door. He thinks the date went well and wants to see me again. Any advice?
StalwartMind Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 It's entirely possible some people aren't aware in the early stages of a relationship/dating that they are talking "too much" about themselves. Ideally both contribute, but some really get gabbing once they start. Our patience, perception and expectation is so different that, to some this would be an instant turn off, however some people require a bit more of time, to fully judge if this is a consistent thing, nerves or something else. You mention he has been in two long term relationships but never married. Mentioning this makes me wonder why you feel he should of married? Not everyone wants to marry, have kids. This doesn't mean anything, sometimes people are also just in relationships where the the one part has no desire for either. There are many reasons, but either way it simply may just not be a must. Also some people are very indifferent and open, for me personally it has always depended on my partner, I am and have always been fine with whatever. Doesn't mean someone isn't serious or worth keeping, again all this depends on what you expect, require etc. Would it be nice if he thanked you for opening the door? Sure, I appreciate good manners too, but I also know people have such different mindsets so I don't expect it to be a given always. When it comes to requirements of a partner, we again have such different views on what we place importance of. In the end you have to judge yourself if you feel any of the things that happened or didn't happen, is enough reason for you to give him another date or not. Personally I'm the patient type, I know people can mess up, on the "bright" side at least he realized he talked too much, perhaps next time he'd be listening with great intent, it's too difficult to tell. If you have nothing to lose, except your time, then why not. Maybe I'm just an optimist but sometimes that pays off to be, we all have different limits. I guess the question is, where and what is yours.
d0nnivain Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 Life is short. If this stuff bugged you this early do you honestly think things are going to improve once he stops being on his best behavior? Seriously if that is how he behaves when he is trying to impress you but all he did was mostly annoy you, I think you need to save each other the grief & not bother with a 2nd date.
Strahatmak Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 Is there any potential great things about him at all? Did you pay attention to his good versus his bad?
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