Meplustrio Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 Each time i go on a date.... wen i think the date is going well and a second date is in the making the dude just fades out. How do i make dates turn into a relationship. 1
ThisisIt606 Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 Just be calm and easy going on the first date. Ask questions about him, tell him about your hobbies, background, whatever your feel comfortable sharing recently. Hopefully you will connect on some topic weather it's the love of travel to a certain place, sports team, type of animal etc. Dress in something that flatters your body type and same for hair and makeup. Smile a lot and seem interested/attentive to him and the date. If he doesn't followup after doing the following then it just wasn't a good fit. I've learned to let the guy do the pursing in the beginning.
mystikmind2005 Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 Just be calm and easy going on the first date. Ask questions about him, tell him about your hobbies, background, whatever your feel comfortable sharing recently. Hopefully you will connect on some topic weather it's the love of travel to a certain place, sports team, type of animal etc. Dress in something that flatters your body type and same for hair and makeup. Smile a lot and seem interested/attentive to him and the date. If he doesn't followup after doing the following then it just wasn't a good fit. I've learned to let the guy do the pursing in the beginning. all good advice, but in my case, i do lose interest quickly with women who let me do the pursuing - if it comes across as disinterest, which it often does, and that is not at all attractive. The thing you have to remember, guys get let down by women allot too so we are looking to avoid that and not waste our time - so if we perceive a lack of enthusiasm, we might start thinking we are wasting our time and move on.
d0nnivain Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 That may be your problem. If on / immediately after date one you are envisioning a relationship, you could be sending them running. Instead, think about how you can turn a 1st date into a second date. When you say you think the date is going well, what does that look like to you? Perhaps you need to learn to cut the dates shorter. . .leave 'em wanting more kind of thing. If you think a good date is one where you talk a lot, perhaps, revise that to one where you ask questions more & speak less about yourself. In essence, change up what you are doing.
mike_89 Posted August 4, 2015 Posted August 4, 2015 Set up a second date during the first date. Not too seriously but just jokingly (you know we should totally go do >activity X< next week). That way it's a lot easier to plan an actual second date. Don't drown him in texts. Very unattractive. Very annoying. Very big no-no.
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