DarrenFromEngland Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 My ex dumped me about 3 months ago for someone else, we have a 15 month old child together, he has moved in with her and they "Seem" happy I on the other hand went through a really hard time, I constantly have problems with my ex, jealousy, anger, etc etc, this time she has gone to far and really hurt me, she came to collect our child on Tuesday and she came early, I was round the corner with my child and my ex walked in where there was my mother, and a female friend, apparently her face dropped, my mam ushered her out and my ex asked who is that woman, I then came round the corner with our child, my ex asked if she was my girlfriend I said no, then she stormed off, stopped at the top of the street and shouted ( YOU HAD ONE CHANCE AND YOU HAVE BLOWN IT YOUR NEVER SEEING YOUR DAUGHTER AGAIN ) I just came in the house, then she rung my phone and asked, who is this woman? is it your friend or your mams friend, I said my mams friend but I know her, then she called me from a pig to a dog, said I did not care about my daughter and hung up, two days later she changed her Facebook profile picture to her, and him with my daughter, he is holding my daughter ( IT HAS KILLED ME ) I never contacted her but really felt like it as the pain is unbearable, I messaged her today asking if I am still seeing my daughter this week she said ( what after some strange woman has been around her, I don't think so ) this really knocked me off my feet, then I am told she is posting pictures of her boyfriend with our daughter on Facebook and tagging him with ( our little family ) I feel empty, she left me for this guy, I am civil still, she has a new boyfriend and he lives with her, could someone please tell me why she is being so cruel, I have never felt so emotionally destroyed in my entire life, my daughter is all I have, I am a great dad, please help me understand her, i dont have enough money to go to court, so this is not an option, i am so lost with her behaviour
Clarence_Boddicker Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 Dunno for sure, but it seems like some instantly hate their ex SOs because the RS ended, even when they are the dumpers. Maybe because your a reminder that the RS failed? Maybe hating the dumped ex makes it easier to move on?
Chi townD Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 It's weird but sometimes are Ex's don't want us, but they don't want anyone else to have us either. My guess, I think she knows that her and her current boyfriend aren't going to last and she wants you to be waiting on the sidelines for her while she plays the field. You write as if you're in the UK. If this is the case, the laws for fathers suck worse than in the US; however, they are getting better. If she's keeping your daughter away from you, you do have rights as a father. Document everytime she's denied you access to your kid and get that information to a lawyer. This isn't about you and her anymore. It's about keeping your daughter in your life. Oh, and block her on facebook. You don't need to see that crap. 2
Lois_Griffin Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 And this is what happens when kids have kids. Be smarter next time. Welcome to at least 18 more years of childish drama and nonsense with a spoiled little princess you chose to have a child with. If you were grownup enough to have a kid with her, then you're grownup enough to get to a lawyer or down to the courthouse and file a formal child custody agreement instead of playing childish Facebook games and being at the mercy of this witch's tirades every time she gets a bug up her a*ss. Hop to it.
Author DarrenFromEngland Posted August 3, 2015 Author Posted August 3, 2015 because she rings me usually once a week, I never ask her to, and she is fine on the phone tells me everything ( never mentions this dude ) sometimes for hour, sometimes two, I really cant work her out, even though she destroyed me I remained civil for my little girl, I never interfere in her life, never message or call her ( only on the days I have my daughter to make sure she is out of bed ) I give her the space to move on with her life even though I am hurt, I could not be a better guy, I really never deserved any of this, I always worry that she will stop me seeing my daughter and try my hardest to keep things civil, she certainly does not hate me this I do know, in fact she still loves me 100% if I could work out her problems I could try to address them, I just want to see my little girl, do you think I should message her and explain that this woman was nothing to do with me? or I could TRY ringing her on Thursday and see if she answers, not sure if she will though, she usually answers all of my calls, or returns them, but she is clearly not a happy bunny at the moment, I did think about staying out of her way for a month or something, what do you think is my best course of action? really lost with this one
aloneinaz Posted August 3, 2015 Posted August 3, 2015 Go to your courthouse and speak to the clerk about filing what is known here in the USA as a parenting plan. I don't know your system, but here, you can do it w/out a lawyer. The number one thing is to protect YOUR rights and NOT let her dictate what you can and can not do in regards to your daughter. I really respect you trying to be civil and keep the peace for you child's sake. However, it's time you get a little more firm and STAND UP TO HER and let her know you're not going to be bullied by her emotional drama. She has NO right to challenge you about who's at your place while she has her new guy in your child's life. Until you decide to push back w/her, you're going to continue down this drama road. 2
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